A female colleague with a good relationship confessed to me, and I refused. The next day I sent her a message to chat, but she didn't reply ... Is it necessary for her to make the relationship so stif

A female colleague with a good relationship confessed to me, and I refused. The next day I sent her a message to chat, but she didn't reply ... Is it necessary for her to make the relationship so stiff? This is what you did wrong.

First, since she is a female colleague who has a good relationship with you, it shows that she has got up a lot of courage to confess to you. You can politely refuse, rather than directly refuse, because after all, girls are more reserved. Since people have confessed to you, it means that they have been struggling for a long time, and they have been struggling for a long time whether to confess to you. Now that people have confessed to you, it shows that they have really used great courage to confess to you. People will be very unhappy if you refuse.

Secondly, since you refused her, why did you send her a message the next day? Since you turned her down, you want to keep an ordinary colleague relationship with her. Since we are ordinary colleagues, don't chat with her alone in private. It's no problem to chat in the office, because you privately said that you gave her hope, but you turned her down, which is very sad, which is equivalent to rubbing salt in his wound.

Third, since you have rejected a girl, don't give her hope. If you really want to refuse someone, please refuse very politely, because everyone can find out what you mean. It's good for both of you to keep the relationship of ordinary colleagues in the future.