Feel love and find your own "Oxytocin"

In the past two days, after listening to Fan Deng's "Feeling Love", I was deeply touched in my heart. I don’t know since when, we have all forgotten what love is. We think that a diamond ring of several carats, a richly decorated house, and a stylish car are love. In fact, I am often reminded kindly by my friends, Duck, you are too cold. I think you are very arrogant. Can you not cherish your words like gold? Even my beloved mother and teammates feel that I don't love them. But really, I just don’t know how to express it, I don’t know what to say, and what I do is not pleasing. To put it simply, my standards do not match what the other party expects.

Typically, we are manipulated by two feelings, either love or fear.

When we are controlled by fear, our common reactions are: anger, flight, and confusion.

Only when we are controlled by love will we feel happy, filled, protected, relaxed and accepted.

People like me are actually always afraid and running away. Therefore, I understand very well that in "Know or Not", Minglan has always been so calm about Sheng Erye's kindness. Instead of To face the pain of loss, I would rather never give anything, that way it won’t hurt so much. Therefore, everything is indifferent, and I don’t fight for anything I don’t love. But is this really happy? The answer is definitely: no. Life is short. If you haven’t lived your true self and blossomed, when will you wait?

Therefore, for me, what is more important is to maintain awareness of myself and learn to identify and respect every emotion I have. Don't try to suppress it. When you suppress your anger, sadness and other negative emotions, you will also lose your sensitivity to happiness.

There is a story in the book that particularly touched me. In a school in the United States, there was a class that was considered a poor class by the teachers and no teacher was willing to teach it. Finally, a new teacher stood up and said: I will lead this class. As a result, the class improved easily and the students' grades were very high. Others wonder what the teacher did to achieve such good results.

The teacher’s method is very simple: she just wants every child to feel love. How to make children feel love? When she talks to the children, she looks into their eyes and listens patiently to them; when the children lose their temper, she is willing to understand them and respond to their emotions; she is willing to understand the children's dreams and what they want to know. Each child’s specialty is nothing more than that.

In fact, all these changes are due to the children feeling the power of this teacher’s love.

I think that the reason why I am so partial to literature and not to theory is also related to the Chinese teacher I met who was always very patient and loving when I was studying. When my composition was still poor, he encouraged me to Even though my legs were shaking when I was speaking on the stage, when I looked up and saw his firm eyes, I suddenly felt empowered.

Love is the power to heal everything.

In the book, a word is mentioned: oxytocin

In the past, we simply understood it as something women use to give birth, but after listening to this book, we finally understood

Oxytocin---

is a hormone that connects emotions,

is a hormone of love,

is a hormone that makes people The hormone that feels love and creates a sense of happiness.

It can promote the experience of love and social behavior,

can counteract stress,

make us feel more connected to others, even pets,

can create powerful emotional connections.

Let our relationship with each other be more harmonious and harmonious.

So, how do you get oxytocin? How to get more oxytocin?

To obtain oxytocin, several conditions need to be met:

1. It must happen in the present and face to face.

Not remotely, not by sending text messages

Communication between people on the Internet,

Sometimes it can make people scream with excitement,

But that’s not love, and that doesn’t produce oxytocin.

Only if people are face to face.

Through face-to-face hugs, kisses, holding hands, and gazing into the eyes, the feeling of love flows.

2. It is difficult for a person who lacks love to give love to others. If he does not have it himself, he cannot give it.

For example, for a person like me who is indifferent, it is difficult to pass on love to others.

We often see some people who are very charismatic, particularly charming and appealing. One road show, attracting countless fans.

3. It’s never too late to get oxytocin.

We often say

"When the children are older..."

"When we finish this week..."

"Wait The weather is better..."

Wait, wait...

The Spring Festival is approaching and it is the day of reunion. Give the people around you the most loving hug and let the warmth pass through Use the palm of your hand to convey it to the people around you. Say "I love you" gently and let the warmth be conveyed through sound waves. Prepare a thoughtful gift for the people around you and let the care be conveyed through actions.

You are very important to me, don’t let down everyone who deserves your love.

To conclude with the warm embrace of the lion awakening and teacher Yang Han’s chicken soup quotations, the essence of lion awakening again and again is the process of feeling and conveying love.