"Tea"-There is no if in life

? I believe that we will meet all kinds of choices along the way. Some crucial choices will often determine our future direction, and this choice is especially important for girls who reach a certain age. Is to choose to fight hard, live a dream life and be a successful woman. Or choose to stay in a familiar city, find an ordinary job, get married and have children, and return to the family.

Let's talk about the title of the play-"Tea"

The first time I heard the word "tea", it was in Sun Li's Love as Air as a lyric.

Happiness is like a flower, opening to tea.

First of all, tea is the last blooming flower in spring, which means the end of spring. Su Shi once described that "tea does not compete for spring, and loneliness opens at the latest." There is another sentence in A Dream of Red Mansions: It's time to spend-after this, spring will be gone.

When the flowers bloom, it means the end of the relationship. The so-called overwhelming love means that the most brilliant, prosperous or unforgettable love in life is about to be lost. But the end of a relationship also means that another new relationship can be started again.

In addition, some netizens said:

Nipples-homophonic two me, equal to two me.

It seems humorous, but isn't this a TV series in which the heroine Zheng faces two completely different lives under two different choices?

Option A: Choose to go to Shanghai to work hard and pursue your dreams. The promotion and salary increase are tripled, but the only condition is to work in Shanghai. ...

Scheme B: I choose to stay in Taiwan Province Province, take care of my future parents-in-law, marry my boyfriend and have children, but I am far from my dream. ...

Perhaps such multiple-choice questions may be encountered by all of us. What decision should you make when you are faced with such a problem?

Plan a or plan b? This is a question ...

Just when the hostess didn't know what to do, the great screenwriter had thought of a perfect plan-Zheng He of ——planA and Zheng of planB started their lives in their own time and space, and two completely different lives began. Such a scriptwriting technique also makes us really doubt whether we will regret our original choice after knowing the answer.

Plana- Shanghai

Zheng came to Taiwan Province alone and started a long-distance relationship with her boyfriend. Usually after work, I go back to the dormitory to have a video call with the male ticket and tell him all kinds of experiences I have encountered at work. At that time, Tang Youyan, the male owner, had to go to the hospital to take care of his injured father after one day's work, and he was physically and mentally exhausted. He often falls asleep chatting with male tickets. ...

In the dream of Shanghai, there are many high-rise buildings and traffic, and everything is so beautiful, but in the face of high-intensity and high-pressure new work, I often work overtime and have a bowl of shredded Chinese cabbage for dinner; Standing in high heels for hours, my feet are swollen and I can't walk back to my dormitory; Working overtime for several days and nights, the body has been unable to eat, leading to a fever in the hospital, and there is no family and friends around to take care of it;

Later, Jason of the former company kindly told Wei Ru that she saw the male host Tang Youyan having dinner with a girl, but she was not sure whether she cheated. Gradually, Zheng realized that her boyfriend was absent-minded, but she couldn't make up her mind.

When I feel overwhelmed, I want my boyfriend to come to Shanghai to accompany her on weekends. I thought it was a multi-day party for two people, but I didn't expect it to be just a boyfriend's breakup. ...

A person in a foreign land, lovelorn in the middle of the night, heartbroken for a while What's even more tragic is that when the other party was derailed, he was questioned, "Have you not reflected on your choice to come to Shanghai now?"

Did you really make the wrong choice?

After breaking up with her boyfriend Tang Youyan, she had a relationship with General Manager Gao Fushuai and became a "weekend lover". She jokingly called it "class". The general manager is really a good partner who is lovelorn. He not only accompanies the female bishop on how to face lovelorn, but also instructs her on how to live and make money, and teaches her to mature step by step.

About how to do business:

We should cherish those who like us; Those who need us, we must release the greatest goodwill.

Teach her how to face a breakup:

The philosophy of breaking up:

First: don't look at what you have lost, just focus on what you can have.

Number two: tell him you're breaking up. Love can't be redeemed after it expires, but it's easier to recover after you play with him.

Third: The way to keep yourself from losing confidence after being abandoned is to work harder, instead of hiding yourself and feeling sorry for yourself.

It is easier to have than to lose and discard verbs, and it is more difficult to accept words.

Teach her how to make money:

About the investment concept:

Although I know nothing about stocks, I think what I said is very easy to understand and profound.

In the play, General Manager Zheng He had a conversation, which I found quite interesting.

General Manager: First, don't let anyone in the world really know you.

Wei Ru: Isn't that lonely?

General Manager: Loneliness is human nature. Love, even marriage and family, can only comfort loneliness, but it can never solve loneliness. One day, you will realize that even if someone knows you 100%, you will not stop being lonely. Therefore, fear of loneliness is the stupidest idea. I trained myself very early to enjoy the sense of security of loneliness and incomprehension.

Such an incisive summary, such a "life mentor" should be rare!

Later, according to the instructions of the general manager, Zheng slowly walked into his dream and started a confident and beautiful life. Having two houses and a restaurant in Shanghai, I am no longer timid in the face of opportunities and become the kind of person who once dreamed of being "slightly extraordinary".

But do you think planA is that perfect? No, the screenwriter will tell you that the manager left her soon, and that very young and lovely He Zhaohui later had an accident and left herself.

Life goes on and on, and finally returns to loneliness. At this time, I was thinking that if Zheng had not chosen to come to Shanghai, then my boyfriend would not have broken up. If not, will he be married and have children and live a happy life?

Plan B-Taiwan Province Province

Maybe many girls will choose to give up their dreams for love like Zheng, but is the life of marrying love really better than imagined?

So after choosing to stay with her boyfriend in Taiwan Province Province, she quit her job and concentrated on taking care of her boyfriend's father in the hospital. This daughter-in-law, who has never been out of the house, tries her best to cook, be a chaperone and a nanny, but wants to "rent a house" at her boyfriend's house. The family's contribution to Wei Ru is natural.

This is what Jason said to Wei when she chose to be with her boyfriend, which makes sense.

Yes, the most terrible thing is that the beneficiary may not be grateful to you, and the sacrifice may not be complete.

Later, her boyfriend and father were finally discharged from the hospital and she found a new job. When the plan in Plan B can be customized again and broken by a sudden child, she doesn't want this child, and she doesn't want to make her life a mess because of one compromise after another. What makes people even more angry is that her boyfriend doesn't even dare to make a decision, and finally accuses Wei Ru of being "cruel".

Wei Ru cried and said to Youyan: Is this the life you want? I can't even say whether to follow him or not. What qualifications do you have to keep him?

Yukihiko: But he is life after all, and he is our child. Are you really cruel?

Because she expected that she would continue to make concessions to plan C.

Wei Ru: I don't want my child to be an accident. I don't want him to be a compromise or a burden. I want him to expect that he is a hope. I hope his parents can protect him. Am I so cruel?

Seeing this, I suddenly feel sorry for the hostess, and I understand why I want to have a baby, because he is looking forward to it.

In the end, they didn't give up and decided to work together to meet a new life.

You Yan also works really hard, working in the office during the day and catching up on design in the studio at night, and everything is developing in a good direction.

However, there will always be some disappointments in life, heavy pressure at work and trivial matters in daily life that make two people quarrel. Some things can be laughed off and forgiven, but some things cannot be forgiven.

One night, Wei Ru suddenly felt abdominal pain and was about to give birth, so she woke up the whole family and prepared to go to the hospital. Because Tang's father was injured and his legs and feet were inconvenient, Tang's mother was anxious to wake up Youyan's sister and found that she had cut her wrist and committed suicide. Anxious Youyan left Wei Ru, who was about to give birth, and went to the hospital alone.

She knew there was nothing he could do, but it was hard for the kindest people to forgive him for letting her face the pain of childbirth alone.

As a result, they had the fiercest quarrel in history.

Wei Ru: I've been thinking about one thing, because I have no parents, Joe has his uncle, and I just don't have a troublesome sister, so I have almost no excuse to compromise everything you have again and again. It seems to be right for you and your family.

Yukihiko: I really appreciate everything, and I really blame myself, but frankly, I really regret leaving you in Taiwan Province Province. I thought we were together. You sacrificed something. Don't you think I didn't? But those sacrifices are together, so it's not sacrifice or compromise, but we work together for life.

But now you make me feel that we are at two ends of a balance, and it is a seriously tilted balance. It seems that no matter what I do, I can't make up for your injustice. I should always be grateful, guilty and self-blaming. Do you know that?/You know what? Do you know that?/You know what? This is a suffocating pressure.

I remember you said that we must never lose to Plan A, but to win a game, we should not always look at our opponents, but firmly look at the goals ahead. If you can't forget your dream of going to Shanghai, how do you think we can win?

Wei Ru: Do you know when people will regret it? When you are disappointed because you are unhappy, unsafe and unhappy, you will feel regret. Why did I miss Plan A? Shouldn't we review?

Yukihiko: OK, please tell me, how can I make you feel happy, safe and happy? I really don't know what I did wrong.

Wei Ru: How could you let me have a baby alone? My parents left me when I was eight years old, and you left me alone when I was most afraid? I also know that you are embarrassed, and I know that you have made efforts, but I just can't forgive you because I am really angry.

It's really painful to see here, and my tears keep falling. Why do they all work so hard, or will there be so many problems and difficulties one after another? Why do they work so hard but can't get happiness?

Maybe happiness is not bought with sacrifice.

In the play, Tang Youyan and her sister had a discussion about sacrifice, and her sister's foreign husband wanted to divorce her.

Tang asked Youyan: Then how can I protect my marriage?

Yukihiko: Maybe this marriage didn't deserve your protection from the beginning. From the beginning, your marriage was unequal. You think you have compromised so much for him because you love him, so he should feel moved and pay the same return. But have you ever thought that it may be because of your ignorant compromise that you lost yourself? Lost someone he loved. That's why he doesn't love you. He doesn't love you now.

You Shan: Haven't you ever compromised and lost yourself?

You Yan: Zheng died, and I have been paying back the money. We are equal, because those sacrifices are together, so it is not called sacrifice or compromise, but we work hard for life together.

Because we are sacrificed together, we are also working hard for life together.

Finally, fortunately, Zheng's sacrifice was rewarded. Although I didn't become my dream self, I managed a happy little family, a lovely child and a husband who loved her.

And the ending of this story, in Zheng's pen, also gained a happiness.

Finally, whether it is Zheng of planA or Zheng of planB, they all received their happiness perfectly, which is really good.

Zheng of planB said:

Life is still busy and noisy, and the same is not perfect.

Sometimes it's like soup with salt forgotten, and sometimes it's misseasoned, but it's all taste.

Now, I have learned to chew my life happily in this not-so-wonderful scheme.

Have you ever heard of Camellia? It is said that it blooms at the end of the flower season. Therefore, when people see the flowers bloom, they are always disappointed that the flower season is coming to an end. But now I understand that the flower season will come again.

As long as we look forward to and move forward bravely, whether it is plan A or plan B, there will be our next flower season.

Seeing this, I think our life may be far more exciting and complicated than the situation in TV series, and there are more factors to consider. Similarly, I'm thinking about my planA and planB, whether it's postgraduate entrance examination or work, but no matter which scheme I choose, I will set my mind and try my best to do well. Now that you have chosen, you will not regret it.

Where are your planA and planB?

No matter what choice you make, there will be opportunity cost, but since you choose, you must be brave. You only have one life, and you can't rehearse and start over, so be brave and try to live the life you want.

May you all be what live high wants.