Reject anxiety and record a good life.

Recently, a topic caused a heated discussion: "Does age bring you anxiety or courage?"

Some people say: "The biggest anxiety is that you are as poor as before when you are old"!

One stop in life has scenery, and one year old has the taste of one year old; In fact, age itself is not a problem. The key is whether you are rich in heart and have confidence in coping with life.

1. Behind the age anxiety is actually the desire to live a standardized life.

Bernice Neugato, an American psychologist, once put forward a concept called "social clock".

In layman's terms, it is what we often say: "What to do at what age".

Actually, every age group is anxious. In his twenties, he was anxious to get married at work; In his thirties, he is anxious about his children's house; In their forties, they are anxious about unemployment; In their 50 s, they are anxious about providing for the elderly and seeing a doctor.

They are all pushed by the social clock, busy and anxious.

But in fact, life is a long-distance race, not a sprint in a limited time. You don't have to catch up with others, you just need to live your life according to your own wishes.

If we are always pushed by the social clock and compared with the people around us, we are doomed to move forward in anxiety.

Actually, everything depends on our own time. Only by following your own pace can you not be troubled by anxiety and not be afraid of the growth of age.

If you conquer the past year after year, you won't be afraid of aging.

Classic short story: the story of Meyer Musk, the author of Life is Me;

She got married at the age of 22 and suffered from domestic violence for 9 years. At the age of 365,438+0, she became a bankrupt single mother. Later, I started my own business in three countries and trained three children. At the age of 60, he returned to the modeling stage and published a book at the age of 7/kloc-0, entering the peak of his career.

Life is also an anti-fragile system. With the growth of age, people's self-cognition will be more accurate and their ability to recover from failure will become stronger and stronger.

If you are better and better in daily growing every year, then age is not a restriction, but a kind of wisdom and a calm attitude towards the world.

Anxiety may be given by the environment, but courage must be accumulated from years of experience. Find the meaning of life, settle your heart and become better in your own time zone.

You will find that age will bring us anxiety, but it will also bring us courage and confidence.

Three ways to get rid of age anxiety

1.● Life, control desire

Our anxiety comes not from getting too little, but from wanting too much; A low-quality life doesn't make you have no desire to live, but you can't indulge.

When we let go of the pursuit of prosperity and luxury and the desire to get what we want, we can lighten the burden of body and mind and live comfortably.

2. study more when you have time, and exercise more when you have nothing to do.

If you are still healthy, beautiful, full of vitality and full of heart at the age of 35, you will definitely like yourself more than you are confused at the age of 25.

Never give up learning at any time. When you have energy in your heart, anxiety will automatically leave you.

3. Cultivate growth-oriented thinking

The "growth thinking" put forward by Stanford University psychologists simply means that our abilities and minds can be changed.

For those who can't, change "you can't" to "I can learn";

Don't be afraid of age, try a new skill and experience a new thing boldly.

Six Good Habits of Rejecting Anxiety

1 Cultivate your hobbies

When people are anxious, they feel depressed. At this time, it is better to divert attention and cultivate some simple hobbies. For example: painting and singing to improve your happiness in life?

2 Open-minded

When you feel anxious and confused, it is better to turn your mind around and start over. Open your eyes and look at the problem from multiple angles, and you will find another beautiful place.

3 independent thinking

Keep a clear head? Learning to look at problems from an independent perspective and analyze problems with dialectical methods is the premise of staying away from anxiety.

4 believe in yourself

Many people think they are not good enough and feel anxious. In fact, no one can succeed for no reason. The real strength is neither a high degree nor a high income. But no matter what the environment, we must keep that initial heart and believe in ourselves.

5 desire for control

Successful people are often bitter before sweet, so we need to control our desire to eat, drink and be merry in time; Only by standing up to the temptation in front of us can we take a step closer to our dreams.

6 grasp the present

Don't worry about what won't happen in the future; Cherish the present life and find more happiness and satisfaction in life;