Broke up. A few months later, I texted and said I missed you. What do you mean?

① For the process of breaking up ② For "Can we still be friends after breaking up?" ③ I want to break up happily when things are over (both sides) ④ It is so hard to forget about that girl (boy) ① Make sure whether there is really no hope between you. If you still have hope, you should strive for it. If there is no hope, there is no need to persist. Long pain is better than short pain. If we persist, it will be a kind of harm to both sides. However, this period of time just after breaking up is really painful, thinking about each other's mind sometimes gets out of control and wants to contact each other. At this time, you must restrain yourself. 1 Don't deny yourself. If he or she doesn't love you, you have nothing to lose. Because you lose someone who shouldn't love you or not, and the other person loses someone who loves him or her. He (she) doesn't love you, please don't be sad. It's not that you are not excellent, but that he (she) doesn't know how to cherish the excellent you. Usually after a period of precipitation, the laceration of the breakup will gradually heal. There was once a female student who cried that her boyfriend was leaving her because she was not beautiful enough. Her friend told her female classmate: in fact, when he pursued you, you were like this. You haven't changed. He has. This is just his excuse, you don't need to blame yourself. Lesbian study: Then can I save him by being beautiful? A friend said: In fact, most people in this world are beautiful women of medium height. The most important thing is not the beauty of appearance, but the kindness of heart. Everyone has his own characteristics, and you don't need to change yourself with other people's eyes! Don't slander each other. Whether you are the one who broke up or the one who was broken up, remember' Don't speak ill of each other'! This is a very important insistence, not to mention who owes whom emotionally, and it is the most disqualification to speak ill of each other. It will make others give you negative comments and make your former relationship quite worthless. Think about it. When you criticize your boyfriend (girlfriend) for being selfish, stingy and lazy, others will ask: Then why did you choose him or her in the first place? Because when you speak ill of each other, you are also corrupting yourself! & gt& gt& gt If he (she) no longer loves him, betray him? You should thank him (her) because she (he) taught you how to love in the future and how to love him (her) when you meet the right person! Let you be like a butterfly emerging from a cocoon, experience mind washing again and again, and finally grow up! Yes, if you must be friends, you can do it, but it will make you both uncomfortable. It's better to get together and relax. Memories hidden in my heart will be more romantic than daily embarrassment. . . . . . One: Never be friends-if you break up, you can't be friends, but you are often friends. One party hasn't given up yet, and both of them have illusions. I hope I can't be a lover or a friend. I can stay with him. I hope that one day I will impress each other with my true feelings and then get back together. Even if we get back together, what can we do? Can you guarantee that the same thing won't happen one day? In the meantime, you have to face the person you love and fall in love with others. The suffering is unimaginable. Since we broke up, we should abandon everything freely and move forward smartly. Even if you are a fake friend, why bother? What's the point of such a friend doing it? -two: no meeting. -We broke up. Why are we meeting again? Meeting will only hurt the other person's heart, because loving, hurting and seeing will only remind the other person of those unhappy and broken up, and meeting will not do any good. Friends are not friends, lovers are not lovers. In what capacity can we meet? Only embarrassment. When breaking up, leave gracefully. Don't meet under any pretext, because you have to start a new life. -3: Don't look for similarities-Don't look for similarities when you fall in love again, because you will always find the shadow of the other person and think that the other person is your original one, so it is easy to fall into comparison and ask the other person to be the same. This is very bad for your feelings and you often indulge in the past. My love life has just been making up for my previous vacancy and my own regret. -Love should be affordable. Don't dwell on the past. That's just the past and memories. Don't do stupid things for the past. Breaking up is no big deal. Remember to cherish the present. -Let it go. Since you have chosen to give up, you must face the future life bravely. Without her, you may have no purpose in life. Therefore, letting go if you can afford it is the way to break up. Sometimes, you think you [should] break up, but this relationship has dragged on for a long time. Why? Because I don't know how to break up; Because I don't want to be a bad person who abandons each other; Because you know that without you, Others will commit suicide. ................................................................................................................................................. .................... This means, actually, I want to break up, but I don't want to say it, because if I say it, it means I'm the one who changed my mind. If it's me, it means I'm sorry. It's all my fault. Therefore, I don't want to be a bad person, so even if I don't love you, I will never break up on my own initiative. People who think this way are a little selfish. Most of them hope that the decision to [break up] will be said by the other party. In this way, their mentality will be relaxed. They can tell themselves: [Well, now you don't want me, not that I don't want you. I didn't break our promise. You broke it first. Some people say that drifting away is the least sad way. The most common way is to increase the distance between time and space when two people make career decisions. For example, if you want to work in a foreign country, I will support you with both hands. If you want to study abroad, I'll buy you a plane ticket. If you want to work during the day, I'll work at night. In this way, there are fewer and fewer opportunities to meet each other, fewer and fewer intersections in life, and the feeling between the two is becoming more and more strange. Then one day, the breakup became a reality, and no one was surprised, so it didn't hurt. Others asked: [If I break up, she will commit suicide. what am I supposed to do？ This situation is even more troublesome. Maybe men are too useless to women, or maybe women themselves are too fragile. Anyway, once a breakup is a matter of life and death, no one dares to take this responsibility, let alone create social news. Therefore, in this case, the best way is [don't break up]. Love doesn't matter, as long as everyone is still alive. If you don't break up, you won't make each other sad. So, dragging a relationship that you don't even want to be, is it another way to hurt each other? If alienation is a way to break up without sadness, how can you tell the other party that your future with him is actually facing the opposite direction when one party is waiting hard and still firmly believes that love will not be blocked by time and space? Just because you are afraid that she can't get out of the pain of breaking up, just because you are worried that she will lose the courage to live because of lovelorn love. For these reasons, you decide to live in never say goodbye all your life, but you can't help but regret it in your heart and betray it in your body. Everything is a breakup except what you said. What is this? Is there an anodyne way to break up? To tell the truth, no (unless you are not really in love). Maybe the degree of pain can be graded, and maybe the wound can be controlled by the skill of breaking up. However, breaking up is breaking up, and breaking up is pain. Some people suffer for days, some people suffer for years, and some people will never forget ... so what? Instead of dragging on an immortal relationship, it is better to learn to let go as soon as possible, and the pain will always pass, and life will still pass. After all, without this, there will be another one. Maybe you really don't want to hurt each other because of breaking up, but you should know that feelings are two people's business, and breaking up is also two people's business, but only you know the feeling of breaking up, and no one can help you except yourself. What you can do is to bless each other silently. You can't forget it, which proves the existence and profundity of your love. Don't forget it deliberately, and don't immerse yourself in pain for a long time. Everyone has his own journey, and there will be all kinds of passers-by in the journey. Every relationship, every experience, and everyone is the mark left by life. Whether the memory is beautiful or painful, it has already happened. Learn to thank everyone you meet or leave in your life. Time is the best medicine. With the passage of time, everything is no longer as unforgettable as it was at the beginning. Adjust your mentality. Life is short and youth is limited. You won't have much time to wait and remember the pain. Face everything with a normal heart, and you will have more energy to face the future ~ Don't say that you are happy when he is happy ... Your happiness is your own ... Don't be unhappy for someone who can make you unhappy. It's just that with the passage of time, his memory is buried in my heart like tea. There is no feeling of love or pain at first, only regret or enlightened experience! Everyone will experience this kind of pain more or less, just to let us learn how to love and let us know how to love the right person when we meet him! Let us, like butterflies emerging from cocoons, experience soul washing again and again and finally grow up! ..... cherish the present and live today! Do something you like, try not to think about it, or remember it completely, face it bravely and really solve it. One is to escape, the other is to face, which is feasible? △ People say that a man (woman) will meet a woman (man) who can change himself in his life, but you haven't. Don't worry. After meeting that girl (boy), you can't help but treat the girl (boy) you mentioned as a stranger. Come on, be happy, tomorrow will be better. △ People say that a man (girl) will meet a woman (boy) who can change himself one day in his life, and you will meet him (her) one day. When you meet her (him), you will feel that he (she) has become a stranger-before. 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