Why don't some people like to send text messages in groups?

Discriminatory treatment is a taboo in interpersonal relationships.

The most typical ineffective social behavior is sending holiday greeting messages in groups. 365 days a year, whether it is a traditional festival or a foreign festival, a big festival or a small holiday without a holiday, you can see mass blessing messages, especially around the Spring Festival.

Not surprisingly, everyone will be bombarded by New Year's messages, and of course they may be bombarded by others. From the era of short messages to the era of WeChat, the platform of flowing water, and the group-sending New Year messages made of iron. This has almost become the New Year custom of China people in the era of communication popularization. I can't refuse or complain about the mass short messages that come with blessings and goodwill. But a long time ago, I stopped sending New Year's greetings and holiday wishes.

0 1 group texting is an invalid social interaction.

In the past, I used to send messages in groups, and I also took pains to synthesize the auspicious words in several versions of the messages, and even read them through several times after editing, trying to use exquisite words and fluent sentences, which made me look very talented and literary.

What impressed me even more was that I was assigned by my uncle who couldn't use the group sending function to rewrite, edit and send a short message in the address book to everyone for him. There are two requirements: to emphasize congratulations to others for making a fortune; Change the suffix to his name.

Later, with the growth of age, more and more people know each other, and the number of group news received every year is also rising. Needless to say, copying and pasting is similar to editing by yourself, and the effect is greatly reduced because of the mass nature.

People are increasingly disgusted with this. On the Spring Festival Evening of 20 14, singer Hao Yun even wrote and sang a song "I don't come back in groups":

So this is a public message,

I can't believe you forgot to modify the suffix.

Suddenly I feel that the New Year is boring.

It's like drinking a bowl of warm water

One year on New Year's Eve, fireworks and firecrackers broke out one after another, and blessing messages broke out one after another. I picked up my mobile phone to send a group message, and suddenly I felt very funny.

Clearly know that the mass-sent New Year message, even if full of auspicious words, has no temperature at all; Obviously, I received a lot of content that I didn't mean, and I refused to resent it. Why should I follow everyone?

The essence of mass New Year greetings is the king's new clothes, which is a hypocritical game between adults. Let's come and go together to create an illusion of sincerity and mutual mourning.

What is the purpose of mass texting? I just want to maintain or enhance the relationship by sending blessings. However, mass texting has long lost this function and even started to have negative effects. Really, forget strangers. If a close friend throws me a cold mass message, I will be angry and sad for a long time. Therefore, mass texting has long deviated from the original intention and has no meaning.

Can't people see this? I do not think this is necessarily the case. But why continue to do so? Maybe the word "relationship" is working.

It is no accident that mass texting is so rampant. China is a relational society, and it doesn't matter until you leave. When people in China hear the word "connections", their eyes will light up. Everyone is proud of maintaining a large circle of friends, but everyone's energy is limited. So we use mass communication to maintain our relationship, but we don't know that this indiscriminate way is actually an ineffective social interaction.

The author of Don't Dine Alone needs to maintain a circle of friends of thousands of people. To show his sincerity, he sends a handwritten holiday card to everyone every Christmas. He was too busy to help himself, so he hired several people to help. Isn't this much more thoughtful than sending text messages in groups? It was not until three years later that a friend teased him that he realized that he had made a fatal mistake: this friend found himself receiving three greeting cards with completely different handwriting from the same person for three consecutive years. The author encountered the same embarrassment as some people who forgot to modify the suffix name by texting.

Social interaction that takes a lot of time and is not intentional is ineffective.