At the wedding, the bride’s temporary price increase ruined a three-year relationship. What did the groom say to win the respect of everyone?

Many wedding customs in China actually hide their special meanings. However, in modern times, the older generation’s concept of marriage has shown some deviations, and even some deliberate sabotage has violated its original intention.

Marriage means perfection and happiness, and it is also the beginning of a beautiful life for a couple. However, in order to satisfy their own interests, many people do not hesitate to harm the interests of their partner, and when the other party refuses, they will say "You don't Promise just don’t love me” emotional blackmail.

I believe that when most people meet a greedy partner, they appear friendly on the surface, but in fact they are already angry inside. However, because they want to get married smoothly, some people will choose to tolerate and compromise.

The persecutors have precisely grasped this mentality, so in most cases, temporary price increases on the wedding day are tried and true.

Chinese people are concerned about face, especially the elderly. They are worried about being embarrassed in front of relatives and friends if they fail to get married, so if they have the money, they usually choose to give it.

However, this will encourage the "selfishness" of some people and make them become more and more greedy. In fact, for a greedy person, no matter how much you give her, she will feel unsatisfied. So can feelings be measured by money?

01.

Chen Gang and his girlfriend Cui Xixi have been in love for two years. Since they are not too young, they began to discuss marriage. Chen Gang and Qian Qian met through a blind date. When they met for the first time, they already knew each other's situation through an intermediary.

Chen Gang is the only son in the family, and his family background is not bad. As early as when Chen Gang was studying in college, his parents had already bought a house for him in his hometown. She works out of town, so according to the wishes of Sissi's parents, if Chen Gang wants to marry her, he needs to buy a house in the city where they work.

After selling the house in his hometown and buying a new house not far from their workplace, Chen Gang no longer had any money. However, he still had to hold a wedding and give betrothal gifts, which already made Chen Gang look a little bit Powerless.

Fortunately, Chen Gang's parents secretly hid some. They originally kept it for their own retirement, but when they saw that Chen Gang was short of money after getting married, they took the initiative to take it out.

Facing the sacrifices his parents made for him, Chen Gang seemed very embarrassed, and secretly vowed to be filial to his parents in the future. Since Sissi's hometown is a two-hour drive from Chen Gang's home, Sissi's parents said it would be better to arrange two weddings.

The first wedding was held at his girlfriend's hometown. Sissi's parents said that they would pay for the wedding at their home. At that time, Chen Gang was very grateful to his parents-in-law for not embarrassing him.

However, he did not expect that the real difficulty lay behind.

When Chen Gang was getting ready to pick up the bride, he received a message from Sissi, which meant that he would have to pay a drop-off fee of 60,000 yuan when he got off the bus, so Chen Gang should prepare it in advance to avoid embarrassment.

Chen Gang was suddenly confused. He had never mentioned this fee before, and 60,000 yuan was not a small amount of money. His money was clearly arranged, so there was no money left.

Chen Gang wanted to discuss with Qianqian and called her, but she didn't answer. A few minutes later, Sissi sent him another message, meaning that the money was just for a lucky draw, and Sissi also said that Chen Gang was not willing to pay even this amount of money and was not sincere in marrying her.

Chen Gang was both aggrieved and angry. It was not that he was unwilling to pay, but that he really had no money. After some bargaining, the other party refused to let go. Finally, Chen Gang made a decision.

He sent a message to Sissi: You should stay at your own home and not get married.

After that, Chen Gang turned off his cell phone and returned to his hometown alone. When he turned it on, he received N missed calls from Sissi and several text messages. He was aggressive at first, but later he took the initiative to seek peace. However, this time Everything came too late.

02.

I believe that some people who temporarily raise the price during marriage have the courage to be so "presumptuous" because they have figured out the other person's mentality, or they rely on the other person's love for them. But they have not considered one issue. A man may be able to tolerate you for love, but even tolerance has a limit. Smart girls must find out where the other person’s bottom line is, otherwise it is very likely that a good love will be given to you by yourself. Seeking death.

Nowadays, men are very strict. Even if they have been in love for several years and plan to get married, when the other party touches their own interests and deliberately "extorts money", they will They were both very sober, and they would fall out whenever they wanted to, without even giving the other party a chance to regret it.

This actually serves as a wake-up call to the "threat makers". In those relationships where we always think we are sure of victory, the reason why you win is because the other person is willing to lose to you.

In fact, in a relationship, I personally think there is nothing shameful about talking about money, and there is nothing wrong with even asking the other person for money, but the key posture is to look good. If the posture is not good-looking, no wonder others say it. . For example, there is nothing wrong with two families sitting together to discuss the betrothal gift and dowry, a little more or a little less, and communicate with each other. After all, everyone will have different views on the issue of money, and it is mainly based on the actual situation. Come.

But if it is something that has not been explained in advance, it would not be good to wait until the wedding day to raise the price. This will easily make the other party no longer trust your character.

Girls, don’t think, “It’s just a little money, why don’t you give it?” In fact, this is not a question of money at all, but a question of principle. When a person has no bottom line when it comes to money, say When things change, there are actually some doubts about the credibility of this relationship.