Rural funeral proverb: "No mourning, no mourning, no paper money, no thanks", what does it mean?

There are many complicated rules and etiquette in rural weddings and funerals. If you don't do it carefully, you may become a stranger, even listen to gossip, be accused, and be told that you don't understand manners. Perhaps it is the wisdom of our ancestors that helps future generations to remember these red tape and prevent people from gossiping, so there are many proverbs similar to jingles, just like the proverb shared with you today, "Don't hang, don't hang, don't burn paper." I think my personal experience may tell you the answer!

Years ago, unfortunately, I lost my dear mother. During the mourning period, I not only have to bear the pain of leaving my mother, but also deal with all kinds of red tape. When I asked for wine at the funeral, I thought I was "uninvited" and felt that my relatives would definitely come by themselves when they knew the news. There is no need to call the funeral one by one, because I thought I didn't know the rules and was scolded by my family. Then he told me the truth of "no mourning, no hanging, no burning paper money and no thanking filial piety", which benefited me a lot and made me grateful to my elders!

In fact, the so-called "no mourning, no hanging, no burning paper money, no mourning", as the name implies, means that an old man died at home. If relatives and friends don't come to visit and pay homage, if they don't inform others one by one, even if the other party knows about it, even if the other party kisses again, they won't come to pay tribute. Of course, if the people who come here just come to pay tribute, or come to help, there is no need to let the dutiful son kneel in class to thank incense, as long as

I believe everyone understands the sentence "Don't lose, don't hang, don't lose paper money", which seems simple and easy to understand. However, once these rules and etiquette are not observed, no relatives and friends will come to offer their condolences. As a result, it is conceivable that the scene will be deserted, and the number of funeral procession is pitiful, which makes outsiders feel that this family is not good and no one is willing to help with the funeral. It will make relatives think that this family doesn't know manners. Therefore, once such a thing happens, especially in rural areas, don't be self-righteous. If you don't understand, you must ask your elders and family. Otherwise, an unintentional move is enough to make yourself not a person inside and outside, so that the whole person has no face and is said to be rude.

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