Take the initiative to chat with boys, one of the opening remarks for men and women to chat - the opening remarks convention

The so-called opening statement is a set of words, questions or stories used to start a conversation with one or a group of strangers. 1. The structure of the opening statement

1. Shoot the available props next to the target person - prepare a topic opening or an impromptu opening to start a dialogue with the target person

2. Time limit. After finishing the opening remarks, give yourself a time limit. For example, "I have a small problem" or "I can only stay for a while, I'm going to meet my friends soon." Of course, although you say this, it does not mean that you must leave after the opening remarks. If

you made no mistakes, no one will ask you why you haven't left after your opening remarks.

3. Tell a story and answer why you want to ask this question. After she answers your question, she must say "I ask you this question because..." This is the gist of the conversation. After the opening remarks, she must, must! Add a joke. These are the basic three parts of an opening statement.

You see, just knowing the conventions of opening remarks is not enough. The essence of opening remarks lies in the twelve-character formula: the listener has no intention, the speaker has intention, and he plays hard to get. ! 2. Things to note when opening your remarks

1. Don’t speak too fast so that others can understand you.

2. Don’t speak too softly, otherwise it will be a sign of lack of confidence.

3. The body should show that it is ready to leave from time to time, and do not stand still among them all at once.

4. Time limits and talking points must be used.

When being contacted by a stranger, most people are thinking about 2 questions:

1. Why is he talking to me? (Answer through jokes)

2. When will he leave? (Through body language and time limit)

Only by making good use of the mentality of the person being approached can we take the initiative in the conversation process. Otherwise, being shot is inevitable

of. 3. How to avoid anxiety

One of the fundamental reasons why you are afraid to strike up a conversation is:

Everyone thinks this is a very unreasonable behavior. Think about it. Suddenly a stranger Isn't it strange and unreasonable to talk to you and then ask for your phone number? In other words, if this behavior can be rationalized subconsciously, our anxiety about approaching people will disappear. For those who are more anxious about striking up conversations, it is best to find a wingman to act together. One person's behavior is indeed unreasonable, but if many people engage in such behavior together, then it is reasonable. So before every conversation, think about the brothers who are fighting alongside us across the country. You are not alone!

This is an ideological way to reduce the anxiety of approaching a conversation

In addition, a better behavioral method is to warm up. Before starting a conversation

you can go Find a few girls to ask for directions. Just ask for directions. No number is required. Ask a few more until you get into the zone.

Then you can start riding. You will find that after you do this, your shots will become smoother and your tension will be relieved.

4. Conventions for opening remarks in various places

Self-study room

It is best for novices to start in a fixed place, because in a fixed place, girls will be more defensive Not so strong, the study room is undoubtedly a good choice in a fixed

place, but the disadvantage is that the quality of the girls in the study room is rarely high,

but it can be used as a novice For practice, after all, you have to challenge street riding at the beginning. This is too difficult. It’s easy first and then difficult, and slowly improve yourself.

There are several fixed routines in the study room:

(1). Borrow pens, paper, and transparent tape (you can borrow whatever she has on her desk anyway). This is the earliest and most original way to strike up a conversation in the study room. It can be used by brothers who have never struck up a conversation before. This trick mainly creates a buffer between the girl and herself, paving the way for later requests for numbers. The main method of operation is to figure out which study room has the most beauties

. After setting your sights on the target outside the door, see if there is any space next to or behind the target. If there is space, it is best. If there is no space, find

Sit in the back row first, and observe the situation around the target at any time. Once you are free, immediately move forward with your bag to occupy it. After you sit down, you can borrow it. After borrowing it, you can find sympathy with the girl.

The situation will cut into the topic, for example, have you read the book on the girl’s desk, or You are studying a course, but you just have nothing to talk about.

Chat about it for a few words every 5 to 10 minutes, and pay attention to the girls’ reactions. If the girls react indifferently, it is best to do it as soon as possible

Ask for your phone number quickly so as not to affect others’ studies. If the response is good, you can deepen the topic. When girls pack their things and prepare to leave, they will usually give them if they ask for their phone number.

(2). Paper flow. You can write this on the note: Classmate, I think your hair is of very good quality. It seems that you are very good at taking care of it. I would like to ask you about your hair care secrets, and then write down your phone number. , if a girl likes you, she will send you a text message,

If that doesn’t work, find someone to chat with. You can use the slips with pen paper for better results.

(3). Start directly. For the target girl, when the girl goes out to answer the phone or drink water, walk up to the girl and say directly: "Classmate, I just saw you reading... a book, you are studying... Really?" It's just nonsense anyway. Or

or directly say: "I just noticed you in the study room and thought you have a very nice temperament. Can I get to know you?" As long as you seem

approachable, generally After chatting for a few words, you can ask for a number.

(4). Invite girls to take you around campus. You can carry a bag and go to another school to study on weekends, and look for a school with a lot of girls. There are generally fewer girls in the study room on weekends. You pick your target from there. After you find the target,

you sit directly in the back and start:

"Classmate, are you from this school?"

"Yes."

"I found your school to be very beautiful. It's my first time here."

"Really, which school are you from?" Yes?"

"I'm from school. Are you busy?"

"It's okay."

Oh, it’s my first time to come to your school. I wonder if you can show me around. . . . Have a strong mentality, don't look wretched, nothing is impossible.

Library

The operation method of the library is similar to that of the study room. If you find a girl looking for books in the library, slowly approach the target,

near the target Take a book and read it, pay attention to what book the girl is holding, and create the same topic with the girl through the book.

However, it is best to pay attention to whether the girl comes alone or with her boyfriend. If you encounter the situation of her boyfriend, you can

smile to his boyfriend and say, "Your girlfriend?" "You have good taste." He found a topic to chat with his boyfriend, and then left after a few words.

Most beautiful women are accompanied by their boyfriends when they go to the library, which is quite depressing.

Canteen

In the canteen, it is best to look for a single target to start with. Two-person and multi-person targets are not easy to enter. As for the starting point, the starting point is the dishes.

Grab a meal and sit next to the girl, "Classmate, what kind of food are you eating?" "Classmate, just order this dish." Anyway, it's just

Just chatting when you have nothing to say. , if you talk too much, you can have sex.

Campus pavilions, etc.

There are many pavilions in the school, small stools and the like. Many girls like to read there, read English and so on.

For this, we can usually start directly, "Classmate, what are you studying? You are a freshman, so study is hard." For these girls who study hard, we can talk about some study methods and life. Ah, ideals, these topics.

Bookstore

Bookstore is also an easy place to borrow books and start conversations with girls. The commonly used routine is to see the target girl

, approach the target girl, take a book nearby to read, observe whether the girl comes alone, what book she is reading, and size up the girl

The specific situation of the incident is followed by the opening. There are several opening methods:

(1). "What book are you reading? You are so immersed in it. Is it good to read?"

(2). "Looking at you, you must love reading. Introduce a few books for me to read. I haven't read any recently."

(3). "You also like to read this book. I have read this book several times, and I have new ideas every time I read it."

(4). "Ah, you like reading this type of book, it doesn't look like you."

Basically, it starts through the book, and then leads to other topics. But don’t chat for too long. After all, the bookstore is a place for reading. You can chat for more than 10 minutes and then you can close the call. One of the more depressing things about the bookstore is that you can only pick up a few girls.

With that small amount of space, if you pick up too many girls, you might be spotted by the last girl when you pick up another girl.

On the way to campus

(1). Ask about the opening of the supermarket. First of all, you have to find out where the school's supermarket is, and then stroll within a certain distance from that supermarket to see if there are any suitable targets. After you see the target, you have to confirm that she is going to the supermarket. If you go in the direction, you can go there

. The opening remarks are as follows:

"Classmate, where is the supermarket?"

"Oh, it's right here... . . . "

"What you said is too abstract."

"Well, I'll take you there anyway. "On the way"

Then you can start chatting along this gap. When you are almost at the supermarket, you will receive the number: "I think you are quite a nice person. Let's make friends.

", take When you take out your mobile phone, you must look generous and natural. Of course, it does not have to be in a supermarket, library, or canteen.

Yes

(2). The training class begins. I have used this several times, and it is basically the same routine as in supermarkets. The specific dialogue is as follows:

"Classmate, are you from this school?"

"Yes"

"I heard that your school has a... training class, do you know where it is?"

"Oh, probably in..."

"You have Time, I’m not very familiar with your school, can you give me a guide?”

(3). Start directly. Pretty girls are usually chased by people. It’s normal to strike up a conversation on the street, and also at school. You will find that the prettier a girl is, the easier it is to strike up a conversation. In their words , just

"It's just making friends, it's normal."

Be brave and go up directly: "Hello, I just saw you by chance and I thought you were very charming. Can you get to know me?

It's that simple, as long as you If you behave generously and not obscenely, you will usually get the number.

It is best not to ask for the time to strike up a conversation, because the intention is too obvious. It is better to just go to

and ask for the number.

On the bus

Many people feel embarrassed when I strike up a conversation on the bus. They feel that there are so many people and it’s embarrassing, but think about it, they can’t do it

You are responsible. Only you can be responsible for yourself. Because you are worried about other people's eyes, you have lost the opportunity to meet the girl you like

Don't you feel regretful? Treat them as an audience. , see how you perform. If there are very few people on the bus,

many people are embarrassed to sit directly at the target, thinking that the intention is too obvious, and they have to think of a way

to let them sit there. She feels that I am not here to chat with her. I think this is too torturous. Why bother? I just want to get to know you. I just want you to know this clearly. Are you willing?

Well, let's make friends. It doesn't matter if you don't want to, there are plenty of beauties. So when you see someone suitable on the bus,

get on the bus and sit next to her if you can. I usually just ask her where she got off, and then talk about some of the city's customs and customs, and then I'll close the number after I get off the bus.

In the square

First of all, you must first observe whether the person sitting next to the target is her friend, because there are many people in the square, and many do not recognize them

People who know each other may sit together, and they must first understand the situation clearly.

The general opening method is to sit near the target and start to make eye contact with the target. If the other person touches my

eyes, smile and nod. If the target If you also reply, then go directly up and start chatting. If the target gives

a contemptuous look, then it’s better for you to leave, as he is probably waiting for your boyfriend. Eye contact is very important when striking up a conversation.

Once you make eye contact, your chances of success will be much greater.

Restaurant or Cafe

In a restaurant or cafe, when you see an empty chair (movable chair) at a table with a target, ask: "Does anyone have this?" Target

They usually say no (they think you just want to take the empty chair to go somewhere else; then, sit down with a bright smile and say:

"My friend will be there in a few minutes." It's time to arrive, so I'll accompany you. "Low risk, high reward. They can't leave immediately, nor can they drive you away regardless of their manners. As long as

you can Capture the interest of one of the women in a minute or two (not necessarily the target's interest, it can also be her friend), then you can integrate into their group.

Bar

Things to note before going to the bar: If a girl is sitting on a bar chair, observe where her bag is placed, and remember to approach from the other side

Otherwise, you are very likely to be shot.

You: It seems that this position is reserved for lonely singles (get close to her, don’t do it yet)

Girl: What? ?

You: I just saw that several guests in this position drank alone and left, and the chairs seemed to be cursed with loneliness

> Girl: What, you want to lift the curse for me?

You: (Sit down) Look carefully at the different colors of your clothes.

Girl: .

You: There was a girl in the same dress as you just now (NEG, use negative stimuli to attract attention)

Girl: The same dress?

You: But don’t worry too much, the same clothes will look more gorgeous on you (IOI, then quickly turn it into a compliment)

Girl: You are so interesting

You: (It is best to have a kino at this time, and then you can take it to the booth)

1 Street ride

Street ride is mentioned last because it is on the street There are the most beauties, so streetwear must be conquered. Let's divide it according to whether the target

moves.

Stationary target:

When you see a target appearing in front of you, and the target has not moved significantly for the time being (such as waiting for someone, or resting)

At this time, in line with nature and the 3-second rule, you can pretend to make a call first, and then hang up when you are almost in front of the target.

End the call, make eye contact with the other person naturally, and start talking:

"Hey, isn't it Wenwen (anyone can do it), what a coincidence that you are here too"

The other party will usually be strange or confused and ask you: "Did you admit the wrong person?" or "Huh?" and the like, but it's actually not important

and then continued, "Yesterday we had dinner in the red room. I was in Class 3, but you

were not. You’re in Class 5, you won’t forget it after drinking.” (In a teasing tone)

At this time, the other party will usually reiterate that you admitted the wrong person, or if you are lucky, you will release the IOI. , at this time, start to play by yourself

.

Moving target:

At this time, the moving target is best in front of you, and then a little closer to ensure that the target hears what you say:

" Hello~~”

At this time, the other party turns his head, you can say:

“Sorry, I thought you were my friend, your backs look so alike~~”

If you are confident enough in yourself, continue to walk forward after speaking, and then use your peripheral vision to see if the girl has quickened her pace

to catch up. If so, That's great. Slow down and wait for the girl to come up to you. Feel free to express yourself~~

Of course, if you don't move forward after you finish speaking, you can watch the girl's reaction after you finish saying this, and then try your best to How to express your judgment,

In short, as long as you interact with girls, as long as you are not a sleazy guy, the probability of getting the number is still quite high.

In addition, as a cliché, when striking up a conversation, under normal circumstances, try not to look directly at a girl when talking to her

Target, 45 degrees from the side is the golden angle for the public, and it shows The feeling of inseparability means that the body should be swayed back and forth

but don't act like you are singing RAP, just be natural and don't let the other party feel that there is any obvious intention

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5. Two rules for opening remarks

The three-second rule

The three-second rule is definitely useful, but it cannot be implemented invariably. At least observe the target. Are you waiting for your boyfriend?

If her boyfriend comes while you are hooking up, it will be more troublesome, so don’t act blindly, observe first

Good environment, haha, speaking of this, a brother told me that when he was picking up a little girl, her mother was next to him, and he thought it was her sister. What a shame, when he met In this situation, no matter how strong your communication skills are, you still can't succeed.

Taking action blindly is one extreme, and being unable to take action is another extreme. The three-second rule is to urge yourself

If you take action as soon as possible, chatting up becomes following you. You will find that the longer you follow the target, the more insignificant you will feel.

Once you feel insignificant when striking up a conversation, it will be no longer possible. So, if after observing the target

you find that you are still unable to take action, then decisively give up the goal, adjust your mentality, change the goal and then take action.

The 90/10 rule

When talking to the target, the content of your speech should account for 90%, and the target only provides 10%.

If you are like normal It’s the same as a conversation, you only provide 50% of the content,

The target will not fully provide the remaining 50%, then the conversation will enter the cold stage. Don’t be cold, it’s better to talk nonsense.

Not to mention strong. After a short opening, the target's reaction is nothing more than that, generally not too enthusiastic. We must take the initiative to engage in dialogue and use our own energy to infect the target. Therefore, prepare a few more open-ended topics that you are good at. Ask about the target first. The target may be just a few sentences, and then your performance will follow.

Try to use as few questions as possible when communicating, such as "Where are you from?" "What are you majoring in?" This is not only boring,

but also reminds you repeatedly. Target, if you are not familiar with it, you can change these questions into declarative sentences!

"I think you are from the north. I can tell from your accent." "You should be studying art." This way, I feel

much better. Cold reading can also be of great use at this time, such as "I feel that you are a person who is not good at dealing with others. I can tell this because you always talk to me when you talk to me. It’s hands folded in front of your chest.” These are very effective.

Men and women socializing and chatting - opening remarks convention - to be continued