How to guide a boy to take the initiative to chat with you? Can you elaborate on it?

You need some skills and methods to make the boys you are interested in chat with you. So how can we get boys to chat with themselves? Let's take a look at some tips.

1. Stimulate curiosity

Creating opportunities and interrupting the topic in time can create mystery and make the other person curious. He will explore under the influence of this inducing factor. When his curiosity and exploration have accumulated to a certain extent, he will take the initiative to find you.

Girl: I'll tell you something interesting. I saw it on the bus today. . . Boy: Haha, then what? Then pause for 5 to 10 minutes. Girl: I have something to do. I won't talk about it! Boy: OK, you go and get busy.

The sudden interruption of this topic will make the other person's mood reach a peak, because a short pause will send a mysterious signal and fully stimulate his curiosity. Later, the sudden end of your topic made the other person wander in a mysterious and curious atmosphere, which increased the dimension of his desire to explore and greatly increased the probability of his taking the initiative to chat with you. You can also call him in the middle of the night and say, "Let me tell you something …" When someone asks you something, you can hang up or say, "We'll talk tomorrow." Just like The Arabian Nights, if you leave the "unfinished" plot to the other party and arouse their curiosity, he will keep a high interest in this topic. Once he is free, he will take the initiative to chat with you.

Many chickens say, "If someone loves you or doesn't love you, take back a message." Essentially, this is not unreasonable, because to some extent, it can test a boy's attention to you, but nothing is absolute. You can't sentence a boy to death because he doesn't love you. In the chat interaction, you can send a message to the other party after work or in your spare time at night, and then quit, which can stimulate the boy's curiosity and let him chat with you actively. No one is not interested in news. When he asks you, he starts chatting normally.

Step 2 repeat contact

"Repeated contact" is a psychological effect. This means that people feel good just because they are familiar with something. In the study of interpersonal relationship, the more times a person appears in front of his eyes, the easier it is to have a preference and love for him. Just like you often talk to your best friend about your boyfriend or husband, his exposure in front of your best friend is greatly improved, and your best friend can easily leave a good impression on your other half. That's why some people make fun of it: fire prevention, theft prevention and girlfriend prevention.

Similarly, when you often chat with a boy, ask for help, or just chat with the other person, as long as you repeat this action many times, the other person will have a familiar feeling and a good impression on "you take the initiative to chat with him" and get used to it. Once this habit is formed, you will change your normal state, interrupt this chat frequency and stop chatting with him actively. On the one hand, he will want to know why you don't talk to him. On the other hand, he will delve into what you have been doing recently. When he really can't restrain his curiosity, he will take the initiative to find you. Of course, if no matter how hard you try, the other person doesn't take the initiative to talk to you or even want to talk to you, then he really doesn't like you. At this point, what you have to do is to attract him and make him like you, instead of directly crossing the step of "how to make him take the initiative to chat with you".

Whether in daily chat or in mutual attraction, your words and deeds should start from stimulating his desire and make him feel "I want to fall in love with this girl". In this way, with a little guidance, the other party will take the initiative to find people around you.

Take advantage of curiosity

Now chat tools basically have the "exit" function. You can exercise your hand speed. Send a few messages to boys, and you can take them back quickly with the hand of "Glory King". Unless a boy hates you or is busy, he will take the initiative to chat with you. At this time he can start chatting! At present, this is an indirect initiative!