The school asked parents to write how to educate their children at home and how to write.

Family education is a systematic project, which requires families, society and schools to jointly undertake the responsibility of education, and do a good job of coordination and convergence among them. For families, it is necessary to combine the educational experience of school teachers with the methods of family education and strive to improve the effectiveness of family education. Only in this way can we really educate our children. The difference between family education and school education is that school education is mainly about learning knowledge and cultivating ability, while family education is mainly about shaping children's character and quality. Although some parents are not well educated, they are very successful in educating their children. However, some parents are not successful in educating their children despite their high academic qualifications. The key to the success of family education lies in whether the educational method is correct, not how much cultural knowledge is taught to children. Parents are their children's first teachers, and their words and deeds have the greatest influence on their children. The success of family education directly affects the children's future. Parents' behaviors and habits have a certain influence on their children's life. As the saying goes, parents are the shadows of children, which is the truth. Therefore, parents play a vital role in children's growth, especially in strengthening communication with schools and teachers. Here are some ways for parents and schools to cooperate to promote their children's healthy growth and thrive.

First, parents should keep in touch with schools and teachers, grasp their children's ideological trends and educate them effectively.

Some parents think that sending their children to school, as long as food and clothing are provided, everything else belongs to the school; Or some parents think that their children are studying at school or have poor grades, and they have no face to see their teachers at school. Only when the children win the honor can they see the teacher at school. In fact, this is a wrong understanding. The child has bad behavior or problems. It is necessary to strengthen cooperation and contact with schools, understand children's ideological trends and the root causes of problems, adopt effective ways and means conducive to children's acceptance, guide children to develop in a good way, and make children become talents with sound personality and useful to society. If we deliberately avoid this situation, it will do harm to children and cause great losses to family education.

Second, extreme methods or means should not be adopted in children's education.

When some parents' educational measures for children with problems are ineffective, they swear or beat them up, or ignore them. This method is not advisable. When your educational methods don't work, you should calm down and think about it. Are you forcing your child to agree with your point of view or practice, or are you educating your child for your own benefit? For these children, we should really understand their inner world, analyze the root causes, start with caring for and helping their growth and development, adopt methods that children can easily change and accept, and let others speak for themselves and do ideological work when necessary to reverse the unfavorable situation.

There are also some parents who think that their children do well in school, study well and win many prizes, so there is no need to go to school, or that my children are very smart, which is not the result of teacher education. This is also a misunderstanding. Students who study well often ignore other aspects because they study well, such as poor ability to bear setbacks, poor autonomy in life, inability to do what they can, and frequent dependence on others. Parents of such children should communicate with teachers more, understand all aspects of their children in school, let their children develop in an all-round way, live independently and handle daily affairs independently, so that their children can better adapt to future social life.

Third, when providing transportation and communication tools to children, we should pay attention to whether it is safe and beneficial to children.

Some parents are afraid of their children's hard work and try their best to provide them with transportation, such as bicycles and motorcycles. But have you ever considered that the transportation you provide for their children is specially for the convenience of going to school or going home, and is also used to show their wealth or prestige. Also consider the child's riding skills and whether he can control the car. Is the road good? Is there a lot of traffic on the way to and from school? Can you guarantee safety? Some students who use bicycles or motorcycles, after school, take a few students on the highway, regardless of their own personal safety, just for a moment's pleasure. When something bad happened, parents regretted it, so be careful when providing transportation. In our school, students are firmly opposed to riding motorcycles and agricultural vehicles. Your child can get in touch with his family at any time when he has a telephone, but some children use the mobile phone not as a tool to communicate with their family, but as a tool to play. In class, they send messages to others, listen to music, play games, even browse pornographic videos on pornographic websites, or chat with QQ friends in class, which seriously affects their study, distorts their minds and makes students develop abnormally. Mobile phones have become a major scourge affecting the quality of school education and teaching. Parents are advised to find out whether students' mobile phones are used for contact with their families or for entertainment when providing them with mobile phones, and to identify the real situation in their children's monthly phone bills. For the healthy growth and development of children, parents should be cautious about their children using mobile phones at school.

Four, in the family education should pay attention to the following points.

(1) It should be noted that example is more important than words.

Parents should first pay attention to their own cultivation and establish their own prestige. A parent who doesn't like learning and only cares about eating, drinking and having fun, a parent who knows nothing, a parent with bad conduct, vulgar behavior, selfishness and disrespect for the elderly, will not cultivate good children.

(2) Pay attention to parenting education.

Children are very concerned about whether their parents have made great efforts for their growth. Although some parents are with their children all the year round, they don't always communicate with each other. Most parents neglect parenting education on the grounds of being busy. Parents' parenting education should be ahead of their children's physical and mental development, so parents should devote themselves to their children's education, keep learning and improve their ability to educate their children, so as to win their respect and love.

(C) to create a good knowledge environment

Children should have a good small environment for learning, not for luxury, but for atmosphere. When studying, students should avoid unnecessary family chats and friends gatherings. And try to tolerate their shortcomings. Look at children with a magnifying glass, knowing that there are no perfect children in the world, even perfect children have their own shortcomings. Parents' trust in their children is an important basis for communication with their children, but don't let them deceive themselves.

(4) Praise more and criticize less.

Appropriate praise is a stimulant and lubricant for parents to communicate with their children. Parents always understand, appreciate, praise and encourage their children, which will enhance their self-esteem and self-confidence. Remember: praise and encouragement make children progress, and criticism and complaints make children fall behind. However, praise should be measured and not too extreme.

(5) When correcting children's key shortcomings, we must pay attention to maturity and choose the best place and opportunity.

Five, parents should strive to do the following.

First, follow the basic ethics of "patriotism and law-abiding, understanding and honesty, unity and friendliness, diligence and self-improvement, dedication and dedication" and be a good citizen.

Second, be polite, don't drink too much, don't swear, and don't enter the campus untidily.

Third, we should fully care for children from life, study to growth, have full sense of responsibility and a harmonious family, and create a quiet, comfortable and warm environment for children to study, live and grow up under the existing conditions.

The fourth is to be strict and friendly to children, not rude, not snoring; Love should be moderate, don't spoil and don't indulge.

Fifth, respect children's personality and self-esteem, and educate children to give priority to encouragement and be persuasive; Help children build confidence and let them always believe that "I can do it".

Sixth, we can face up to children's shortcomings, treat children in two ways, take measures to teach students in accordance with their aptitude and be good at recovering losses.

Seven is to look at yourself in two. Democratic family style, able to listen to children's opinions and voices; Be able to accept children's criticism of themselves with an open mind. If you smell it, you will be very happy. Smell it and change it.

Eighth, correctly treat the contradiction between children and classmates; Parents can have something to say; Can cooperate with the school and teachers to deal with what happens between children.

Nine is a full life, full of energy and elegant taste. In front of children, no matter what the situation, always have confidence in life and the future; Love learning and be a learning parent. The level of family education has been continuously improved.

Finally, please remember the following sentence: the premise of educating children is to know them. Appreciation leads to success, and complaining leads to failure. As long as parents are full of confidence in their children's education and adopt methods suitable for their growth and development, they will certainly cultivate children with both ability and political integrity.