"The Shape of Water": Man, your name is loneliness

Three single young women, wearing loose and comfortable pajamas with fluffy hair, moved up a small bench, turned off the fluorescent lights, and had a movie date at 10 o'clock on a weekend night

—— "The Shape of Water" - The Shape of Water

The 123-minute movie was finished at 12 o'clock in the evening, or in the early morning of a new day.

I opened the curtains and opened the windows. The moon was shining brightly outside, and the streets had long since lost the hustle and bustle of the day. Only the lights in the laboratory were brightly lit, and the sound of equipment operating was carried along with the wind. Into the ears, it is extremely clear.

Loneliness is a feeling that many people will have, but it is a state that is somewhat unwilling to admit.

I looked out the window again, at such an ordinary midnight,

The mute woman who worked at the bottom of the laboratory lost the opportunity to gain more emotions because she could not speak. She masturbates as a routine in the morning and quickly establishes a relationship with the fish-man. These manifestations all come from her inner loneliness.

The captured fishmen were lonely because they could not communicate with humans or express their emotions. Because of the different species, the fishman was isolated and tortured. All of this made him fear humans, so much so that he became violent.

The loneliness of the old painter Wuzhi is not because he lives alone and is not recognized as a painter, but because he is gay and belongs to a vulnerable group of that era.

This kind of loneliness is the most direct result of the lack of emotional communication caused by physical disorders, because no one can completely figure out a person's true inner thoughts. When ideas cannot communicate, we experience loneliness.

Lonely marginalized people need a voice.

There are always some groups in society that are forgotten or ignored. They struggle to survive in every corner, accompanied by loneliness.

No one takes the time to understand their needs, and no one truly cares about their hearts. They use silence to talk to the world, and only loneliness truly exists.

The most important thing for marginalized people is to find similar people and find emotional comrades. When two lonely individuals meet, they will always be attracted to each other and gain warmth from each other. Society can provide them with a "voice maker" so that they can find each other and then speak to each other so that their souls are no longer lonely.

Just as the movie describes: the mute girl and the old man became close friends, the mute girl and the fish man became close lovers, and the old man and the fish man became friends.

The black cleaner is the mute girl’s best friend. She sincerely makes friends with the mute girl. She talks to the mute girl about the troubles at home while working every day. She has a partner, but she is lonely and needs someone she can trust to talk to.

The villain agent also has a satisfying family, a beautiful and decent wife, obedient children, and an orderly life... But his behavior reveals his loneliness everywhere, and even opens up Abnormal mode.

As a spy scientist, studying biology is actually a task with a national mission. His loneliness comes from the difficulty of choice. Justice or cruelty? No one will tell him the answer, he alone decides. When he answered calmly but vigilantly in front of the villain, and when he hid a knife behind his back to prevent his comrades from murdering others, the loneliness in his eyes made me feel pity.

There are family members, friends, comrades, and comrades-in-arms... but loneliness is still unavoidable.

Lonely people are not necessarily lonely. Even if there are many people around, but no one can communicate and have spiritual communication, it is still lonely.

Of course, lonely people are not necessarily lonely. Only with companionship in the soul can we truly gain warmth.

The lonely center needs a living window.

When you walk into a bar, there is always a middle-aged man sitting in a corner, drinking alone, with sorrow and doubts on his face, not caring about the people and things around him, as if he is the only one left in the world. Occasionally, when he gets a call or text message, he lowers his head and frowns, hangs up, or even turns off the phone.

Successful elites have completed a fulfilling day of work, but don’t know where to go after get off work. They drive in the car and play music, walk into their usual restaurant, order food, drink tea, and end Then continue to work with you.

The central person seems to be standing in the mainstream group of society, but does not give himself a spiritual window. They separate themselves: the shell is high above, shining brightly; the heart is poor and no one cares about it.

This kind of loneliness is terrifying to think about, because no one knows your needs except yourself.

Central people need a trustworthy window to see the outside world and be willing to show their true selves. There is a key word here: trust.

Many people are lonely because they lack a sense of security. Only under the protection of trust are they willing to reveal their hearts, open the window, and let the sunshine from the outside world shine in.

In the movie: The mute girl became the sunshine of many people because of trust. The villain developed a desire to conquer the mute woman because she could not speak; the black woman was willing to tell her parents' shortcomings because of her kindness; the scientists trusted and helped each other because they were the same rescue targets.

If someone asks me: Do people inevitably experience loneliness from birth to death?

My answer is yes!

Every age group seems to have its own loneliness.

I once taught a 12-year-old girl. She liked to chat with me about her concerns. For example, her parents always misunderstood her, some boys in school were annoying, etc. I was also worried that she would not behave well in school. Sociable, she told me she had a lot of friends and had a good time, but she couldn't say anything to them.

When we were in college, we once played truth or dare. Unexpectedly, everyone chose truth or dare. Why? No one believes the truth!

After work, many male colleagues like to smoke and chat during the lunch break. Their main topic is the mid-life crisis. Whether it is career or relationship, it seems that they have reached a "lonely hill", and some are unable to do their best. Don't know who to ask for help.

Women will also face similar loneliness after working. For example, we three young women gathered in the dormitory to watch movies on weekends; many women choose to work overtime because of loneliness; some housewives also Loneliness, choose sustenance on the Internet and mobile phones.

In middle age, the pressure of career and family makes people feel isolated and lonely; in old age, they are more eager to have children and grandchildren to accompany them and enjoy family happiness. The greater the desire, the greater the desire. The feeling of loneliness will become stronger.

However, one thing is certain: loneliness is not all a bad thing!

Since ancient times, sages and sages have been melodramatic, and most of the society, era, and people they live in cannot understand, so they are lonely; and lonely people, because they have learned to enjoy loneliness, and jump out of the world, use unique vision, Gain insight into the morality and truth of the world.

There are many kinds of loneliness for ordinary people. How to digest loneliness and make loneliness a positive driving force in life has become a course that each of us must learn.

Some people say: People who have been alone are the most mature.

To be more precise: People who live alone, move toward the life they want, and find the best state of life are the most mature.

In the most isolated and helpless nights, we learn to endure loneliness and find a window for catharsis. Output brings harvest. In the process, we collect warmth and get out of loneliness, or keep loneliness in a within safe limits.

Such people are more empathetic, creative and insightful. They will be more calm and calm when facing various problems and difficulties.

So, when loneliness suddenly visits, please face it and don’t run away!

Experience loneliness, enjoy loneliness, and control loneliness!

After writing this, I closed the computer and looked out the window again. The dead of night is the best time to fall asleep.