The woman is divorced and has a girl (living alone with her daughter after the divorce)

Text/Xia Mo

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Love is like the falling snowflakes in the cold winter, light and moving, white and flawless, very dazzling. However, when a ray of sunshine falls on the earth in marriage, it quietly turns into water and flows elsewhere.

Xu Minqing, who had rented a house, had just walked to the door of her house. When she was about to take out the key and open the door, she heard her daughter's cry and a woman's scolding coming from the house. Liu Fang, the third party who destroyed her marriage with her ex-husband.

Xu Minqing opened the door anxiously, ready to comfort her daughter, when a bag and some clothes fell on her.

"Get out of here, this is my house, don't worry." Liu Fang fiercely pushed her daughter down next to Xu Minqing. The child cried harder.

Originally, Xu Minqing planned to argue with Liu Fang, but she did not want to cause unnecessary harm to her daughter. She comforted her daughter and silently packed away the clothes scattered on the floor, while her husband stood aside. Indifferent, at that moment her heart was filled with despair.

Women who are unhappy in marriage should learn to choose. A man who has changed his mind does not want to look back, and a woman does not have to wrong herself.

Xu Minqing will never forget how sadly her daughter cried that day. She secretly vowed in her heart that she would never let her daughter be hurt like this again.

02 Divorce is a reshuffle of life, and you get rid of a "bad card".

When her ex-husband proposed divorce, Xu Minqing said calmly: "You have to think carefully, divorce is okay, and the custody of our daughter will be mine." Her ex-husband agreed without saying a word, which surprised Xu Minqing. .

However, the condition put forward by the ex-husband was: "If you choose to have a child, you cannot ask for property."

I originally thought that the ex-husband would consider the daughter's feelings and hesitate to divorce. , I didn’t expect that he didn’t feel guilty at all. Maybe, his heart really is no longer in this family.

Her friends all advised her to get divorced and not have children, saying that it would be difficult for a woman to get married with children after divorce in the future. However, she couldn't let go of her child, and she couldn't let go of her concern for her child.

After Xu Minqing found out that her ex-husband had changed his mind, she once hinted to him, hoping that he would wake up and step back from the cliff in time.

Not only did her ex-husband not look back, he even contacted Liu Fang more unscrupulously. At first, Xu Minqing wanted to keep the family for her daughter. It wasn't until her ex-husband didn't even want her daughter for divorce that she came to her senses.

It turns out that she hoped that he would change his mind because of her imagination.

After finding the house where she lived and coming back to pick up her daughter, Xu Minqing found out that Liu Fang had moved into the house early in the morning with her luggage. When she saw her daughter looking for her mother, she not only did not comfort her, but also said something scolded her as a "sluggish person".

Xu Minqing divorced her ex-husband. She no longer wanted her daughter to be scolded by Liu Fang, and her former home was no longer worthy of her nostalgia. Looking at the divorce certificate, she felt much more relaxed.

For women, divorce means a new turning point in life and a new beginning.

03 After divorce, life is very difficult, but mother is her daughter’s protection.

Maternal love is great. Having a daughter has given Xu Minqing a strong mind. After the divorce, Xu Minqing took her daughter to the previously rented house, which was about ten square feet.

She originally planned to go back to live with her natal family, but her natal family was in a remote mountainous area, far away from the city, and her natal family did not agree to the marriage when they got married. Later, when her younger brother got married, she asked her to borrow money, but her ex-husband did not agree. So much so that she and her mother-in-law had already had a rift...

Xu Minqing quit her job since she got married. Now she has to find a job on her own to make money. She has little education and no experience. Many companies No one hired her.

Finally, in order to take care of her daughter, she started a meal delivery job near her daughter's school.

Food delivery work is very hard, with wind and rain, and hot summer weather. Xu Minqing has never taken a day off. She wants to make more money to study for her daughter, so that she can be as healthy and happy as other children.

In order to give her daughter more nutrition, Xu Minqing would leave any delicious food to her daughter. Many times, she would avoid eating prunes or other pickled vegetables with rice to fill her stomach. I am reluctant to buy a piece of clothing for myself, but I am willing to buy a beautiful skirt and comfortable shoes for my daughter.

As a mother, Xu Minqing ate all her bones for her daughter, and her life was difficult and gloomy. However, Xu Minqing has never regretted asking for custody of her daughter, because her daughter is also her spiritual support.

04 Women live a "noble" life and are responsible for themselves, which is the only way out.

No matter how difficult life is, as long as you manage it with care, it will slowly overflow with the fragrance of flowers. Food delivery worker Xu Minqing was very diligent and saved some money. She used the money she saved to buy a tricycle and start a street stall business.

Although life was difficult at that time, she began to see hope. She can earn one or two hundred yuan a day, and she is very satisfied. Starting from setting up a stall and doing business, the quality of life between her and her daughter gradually began to improve.

A year later, she moved to a small apartment and her street stall became a small store-like stall. At that time, she began to read and study while doing business.

After the divorce, she began to know how to take responsibility for herself, and how to start "enriching" herself and improving herself from the inside out. Not only did she learn how to do business, but she also took good care of herself and had a good temperament.

Xu Minqing felt very satisfied that her daughter was well-behaved and sensible. She worked hard to make money and finally lived a stable life.

Zhao Feng is the son of a neighbor's aunt. Because of Xu Minqing's hard work and kindness, his heart was moved by her. He took the initiative to show his kindness to her, and protected and respected her from the bottom of his heart.

Zhao Feng was a real man, and he was also very kind to her daughter. His persistence touched her heart, which had gone through many vicissitudes of life. Through her own efforts, she met her true love.

After leaving the siege of marriage, women should learn to be strong and learn to live a more "noble" life. Only by relying on your own strength to gain a foothold can you take good care of your children.

Divorced women are not pitiful. What is pitiable is the woman who has failed to recover because of the failure of her marriage.

As long as a divorced woman works hard enough, she can still live a "expensive" life, be charming and attract good men.

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