How to handle the relationship with colleagues?

There is a magical formula that can dissolve hostility between colleagues:

Do you often worry about the handling of colleagues' relationships? How to turn an enemy into a friend when you meet some colleagues who are hostile to you in the long interpersonal relationship in the workplace?

If you meet a colleague who is hostile to you, for the sake of the overall situation and your own development, it is not appropriate to intensify or openly contradict. This requires us to have a broad mind, to turn passivity into initiative, to create harmonious interpersonal relationships for ourselves, and to make it a driving force to spur ourselves. To this end, we might as well take the following measures:

First, communicate with superiors and colleagues in time.

Some people will be hostile to you because of misunderstanding, jealousy or arrogance, will not cooperate with you at work, and will not spread your rumors behind your back. By the time you know it, it will probably have spread around the company. At this time, if confronted face to face, it is unwise to ask the other party to give you a statement. One is that the other party may deny it, and the other is that the face is stiff, which affects the work. The best way is to communicate with your boss and colleagues in time. Choose a suitable time and occasion, tell your own situation and thoughts, and let the rumors break down.

At the same time, remind yourself not to use offensive language, it is best not to target someone, so as to clarify the facts and not to use revenge, otherwise the listener will misunderstand that you are venting your emotions, but this will not achieve your goal.

Second, pay attention to self-reflection and motivate yourself.

When you know that someone is hostile to you, you don't have to be outraged. You might as well reflect on yourself and think about whether your colleagues have any problems at work. When you get along with each other in the future, you should be more cautious, say less things that are easy to cause misunderstanding, and avoid throwing people at you. In this way, it will help you to be more mature, safe and less right and wrong in interpersonal communication.

If someone is hostile to you, he will definitely belittle you on some issues in an attempt to make others doubt your ability, talent and performance. The best proof you have to do is to do your career better, instead of spending time and energy on unnecessary interpersonal disputes. From this perspective, "hostility" is a spur to you and a driving force for you to make great strides forward.

Third, through the "middleman" to transmit information to terminate the hostility of the other party.

If possible, people who disclose information to you or are acceptable to both sides can be regarded as "middlemen", through which information can be passed on to resolve or stop hostility. This can achieve two purposes: first, inform each other of their own thoughts and facts, clarify the truth, eliminate misunderstandings, and communicate and understand; The second is to let the other party know that they know what the other party has done, thus playing a warning role and making the other party converge.

30 principles of peaceful coexistence between office and colleagues:

1. No matter what happens, you should first think about whether you have done something wrong. If you are right (that's impossible), put yourself in the other person's shoes and feel their feelings.

2. Adapt yourself to the environment, because the environment will never adapt to you. Even if it is a very, very painful process.

3. Be generous. If you are not generous, learn to be generous. If generosity really hurts you, pretend to be generous

4. Low-key, low-key, low-key (lower-key than temporary workers, maybe you are not as good as temporary workers who have worked for several years in the eyes of others).

Be sweet, don't be stingy with your cheers. (will praise people. A good compliment will make people feel very happy, but don't go too far to disgust them. )

6. If you think the work is progressing smoothly recently, you should be careful.

7. Be polite. Look each other in the eye when you say hello. When communicating with older people, you should call them elders, because you are the real junior.

8. Talk less and do more. If you talk too much, you lose. Too many people, too few words.

9. Don't take others' kindness for granted, but be grateful.

10. Hands are high and eyes are low.

1 1. Be punctual, but don't expect others to be punctual.

12. Keep your promise, but don't make it easily. Don't always keep others' promises to you in mind and believe them.

13. Don't borrow money from colleagues. If so, be sure to return it on time.

14. Don't lend money to your colleagues. Give it to him if necessary.

15. Don't pass the buck (even the responsibility of others).

16. Don't speak ill of another colleague behind his back. Insist on saying nice things about others behind their backs, and don't worry that these nice things won't reach the ears of the parties. If someone speaks ill of someone in front of you, smile.

17. Avoid openly opposing colleagues (including publicly raising objections, which is even more undesirable).

18. Always help others, but don't let the people who are helped take it for granted.

19. Telling the truth will bring you great misfortune.

20. Do things right, not people; Or be ruthless about things and have feelings for people; Or do first and do second.

2 1. Always check whether you are conceited, proud and look down on others. Even if you are talented, it's no use without the cooperation and help of others. 22. Patience is a compulsory course in life. Be patient with life, some people will fail this course until they die. When you first arrive at a place, don't rush into these circles. Long enough, your circle will automatically accept you.

24. Have a normal heart. No big deal. Think bad of good things, and think good of bad things.

25. Try not to have an office romance. If it is unavoidable, avoid any form of physical contact, including eye contact, in the office.

26. You can kiss up (this is one of the important ways to communicate with your immediate supervisor), but be careful not to get your hands dirty.

27. Qualifications are very important. Don't play tricks with the old guys, or you will die an ugly death.

28. Good intentions sometimes don't lead to good results, but you shouldn't be discouraged.

29. Maintain respect and tolerance.

30. If you lead a team, when summing up your work, you should take all the mistakes on yourself and all the credit on your subordinates. Remember to praise subordinates in time when the boss and subordinates are present at the same time. When criticizing people, it must be done only by the two of you.