Recovering after a long-distance relationship broke up (record of recovering from a long-distance relationship after a breakup)

Long-distance relationship should be the least optimistic of the several common love relationships. When I miss you, the other person is not around. When I want to talk, I can only send messages through radio waves. When I am sick, the other person can only say something to buy some medicine and drink more hot water.

Many people even say that long-distance relationships are like having an electronic pet in your mobile phone. Not only do you have to ask for help every day, but you also have to be careful not to be taken advantage of. With the continuous development of transportation, the distance between people seems to be getting closer and closer, but long-distance relationships still face many problems after all. When the other person needs your company, you can't appear by their side in time. The intersection between the two people is getting smaller and smaller. Every day they chat is just a few simple sentences, the topics are getting fewer and fewer, and the distance between their hearts is getting wider and wider.

When you can't contact the other party, you tend to have random thoughts because of a lack of security, which ultimately leads to misunderstandings between the two parties. There are too many problems like this. It can be said that many people's long-distance relationships have ended up walking on thin ice, being cautious, and losing the original intention of the relationship in the end.

Today I will share with you a case of long-distance relationship. The two parties had various conflicts due to the long distance, and eventually broke up and stalked each other, which led to serious conflict between the other party. Finally, under the guidance of the protection team, online and offline operations were carried out together, and finally the case of successfully recovering the long-distance girlfriend was achieved. The two of them had had a similar quarrel before and falsely broke up, so they felt that the other would come back soon. In the end, while waiting stupidly, they suddenly wanted to get back together but found that the other had already gone far away.

"Why are you always so perfunctory when I'm tired?" With these words, Xuewu's two-year long-distance career came to an end. Xuewu and Xiaodu were undergraduate classmates. They met and fell in love in their sophomore year and spent a wonderful time in college. When they were in their senior year, they planned to go to the same school to study for graduate school, but by some mistake, Xiao Du got admitted, while Xiao Wu ended up choosing to transfer to another school. At the beginning, the two of them planned very well. They would go on an internship together after they were in their second year of graduate school, and get married after they settled down after graduating from their third year of graduate school. However, things didn’t work out as planned. People who have studied for a master’s degree should know that you are usually too busy during your postgraduate career. Busyness depends a lot on the quality of the teacher. Xuewu's teacher adopts a free-range management of Xuewu, so Xuewu has a relatively relaxed life every day. On the contrary, Xiaodu's teacher is very strict with Xiaodu, basically every Saturday You are required to stay in the laboratory on Sundays.

The two of them spent the first days of school like this. They would also share what happened in school with each other, but later on, the topics they talked about became less and less. Even many times, when Xuewu sent messages to Xiao Du, Xiao Du would simply respond, and Xuewu began to feel a little uncontrollable. There are more and more chats like this.

Later, I found it incomprehensible to Xiao Du’s indifference. Seeing my friend and his girlfriend loving each other almost all the time, I couldn’t understand it. I started to make trouble unreasonably, thinking about using some of my "work" to attract her attention, but the fact was contrary to what I thought. Feidan did not increase the relationship between us, but became the last thing that broke the camel's back. straw. After that, I went to find him, only to find that the other party had turned on friend verification. I called her, but she never answered. Later, she probably blocked me directly.

I was angry at first and thought about breaking up, but I felt very uncomfortable for the next few days. Those days were very painful. I consulted many psychological agencies and many recovery agencies. , in the end, only Teacher Li Yuling’s words woke me up. In the end, I decided to believe in the Zhenai team and follow Teacher Li Yuling to save my love. Composition is not exclusive to girls in love, boys will make the same mistakes, but if you want to fix the long-distance problem, you must find out the crux of the problem and prescribe the right medicine instead of rushing to seek medical treatment.

Before implementing the recovery steps, what we need to do is naturally analyze some of the mistakes Xuewu made in this relationship.

1. Self-centered and not caring about the feelings of the other person

No one in this world has the obligation to be good to you all your life. The relationship that only one party gives will not last long. It is obvious that Xiao Du did not live as elegantly as Xuewu in school. Girls' environmental adaptability is inherently worse than that of boys. Xiaodu must have been under a lot of pressure there. However, at this time, Xuewu did not pay attention to guidance and instead took every step. The tight pressure led to the conflicts between the two parties gradually accumulating and eventually leading to the outbreak of conflicts.

2. You can’t control the scale of your actions

Don’t overdo it. What if you accidentally commit suicide? In the process of getting along with each other in a long-distance relationship, trust and understanding must always be there. Yes, care more about each other. If you have survived the long-distance relationship, what is there to overcome? So when you start a long-distance relationship, you must be clear about your heart, know what you want, and be mentally prepared for everything. Get ready to start a long-distance relationship again.

3. Ice-breaking letters to break up the emotions of both parties

In the initial period, we were not in a hurry to arrange for Xuewu to reunite, because Xuewu himself is the kind of person with a good personality. Some stubborn types, even if they realize their mistakes now, are likely to have emotional outbursts again the next second. Therefore, in view of his repetitive nature and personality flaws in love, we tailored a set of services for him as an initial learning foundation. These include "Master of Love Philosophy", "Multiple Context Chat Rules", "Mindset Construction", etc., and a special psychological counselor was arranged for him. After summarizing the learning of Xuewu in the first stage, we conducted scene simulations and assessments, and Xuewu's performance in all aspects was relatively excellent. Therefore, in addition to our control of time, the other party's emotions should also be buffered, so we decided to test the other party's emotions in the most tactful way of writing letters. At the beginning, the letter from Xue Wu showed too much need. After repeated revisions and finalization, the letter only contained an apology and a simple concern, and ended with the conclusion that the person who retreated was still a friend, and finally it was sent.

We have been tracking the logistics, and on the third day it showed that the letter was signed for. Finally, we decided to wait and see for a day. If there is no situation on the other side, then we will take the initiative. The next day, the other party sent a text message. Although it only contained the words "I know, take care of yourself", our letter was also effective. That night we sent a friend verification, and the other party It also passed successfully.

4. No need to reconnect and reshape the relationship

Before adding the other party back, we had already made some changes to Xuewu’s circle of friends. After just adding him back, Xuewu’s mentality Some are unsteady again. Anxious to reunite and lick each other, we immediately arranged an urgent phone call, and only then did Xuewu's mood stabilize. After adding WeChat, we did not rush for Xuewu to contact the other party, but looked for opportunities to use unnecessary reconnection to open up the conversation between the two parties. Finally, we decided to see a friend post posted by the woman about the recently released movie "Nezha: The Devil Boy Comes to the World", so we asked Xuewu to like this status, and then immediately arranged for Xuewu to watch the movie. After that, I read some highly praised movie reviews on Zhihu Douban and others. So that afternoon, Xue Wu’s first contact began.

It can be seen that the two of them are actually quite willing to communicate about topics that the woman is interested in, so they used the topic of movies as an opportunity to open up the first situation. A good start is half the success. Later, we arranged the topic range for Xuewu’s chat, and coupled with Xuewu’s previous training, the frequency of chats between the two began to gradually deepen, and we all spent time to help Xuewu control the time so that the woman is not busy. Time period, not whenever I think of it before.

So the truly effective solution is to first deal with the underwater part of the iceberg - everyone's true feelings about things, their opinions, past experiences that affect their judgment, etc., as long as you use Communicate and have more contact with women in a sincere way, and deal with the man's own problems well, and the woman will naturally come back.

5. The offline dating relationship was successfully restored

The interaction between the two people online has gradually returned to normal. In the meantime, we also arranged for Xuewu’s caring substitute Xiao Du Ordered several late-night fruit snacks. Xiao Du did not refuse. The two of them seemed to have found the delicate balance of getting along. After systematic analysis of their chat records, we felt that the time was ripe and we were ready to arrange an offline emotional meeting between the two. **Zhen's journey was successfully restored. We first helped Xuewu prepare a gift for Xiao Du, and then we chose a weekend and left. After waiting, I called Xiao Du and told her to come over for investigation. She should be there for a few days after the work was done. She was familiar with this place and wanted her to take her to the delicious and fun places around. In fact, we had low expectations for Xuewu before this. In fact, as long as the other party's emotional intelligence is not low in this invitation, it will be Sima Zhao's heart. But as long as the other party can agree, then the matter can be said to be more than half successful. Xiao Du hesitated on the phone, but finally agreed to take him around.

When the two people first met, we asked Xuewu to show a different side of himself than before, and the atmosphere was always very good. The two of them also went to see a movie together, and the atmosphere was quite ambiguous, but we strongly urged that we must prepare for suspense on the first day, and never kneel down or overly reveal the purpose. On the first night, Xuewu returned to his accommodation and had a phone call with our consultant to report the situation. We immediately made detailed adjustments to tomorrow's arrangements based on today's situation, and finally informed Xuewu of the perfect plan. The next day, the two went to the local amusement park and played many sports. Xiao Du did not shy away from Xiao Du's physical touching test several times. The two also talked about many good memories of the past. In the evening, we asked Xuewu to take the initiative to take Xiao Du to a restaurant that had been arranged in advance. The two of them drank some wine and talked about many good memories of the past. The atmosphere was basically in place.

We asked Xuewu to bring out the gifts we had prepared in advance, and we had a conversation we had arranged in advance, mainly focusing on some good memories in the past, and expressed that the two parties were willing to continue to be sweet like this, and finally we got married. Du accepted the gift and the two reconciled.

The difficulty of recovering a long-distance relationship will be more difficult than that of ordinary consultation cases, but it is not without methods. The above cases are just examples. Each relationship has its own uniqueness. Remember not to apply it mechanically. If You don't want to miss this person and want to save your relationship. But you don’t know how to do it, you can click below to learn more. The teacher will help you immediately.