Want to buy overdraft flowers in buy buy?

Want to buy overdraft flowers in buy buy?

First of all, I can't stop buying at buy buy.

6 18 is coming. From pre-sale to official sales, all major platforms have launched a full-page "6 18 money-saving strategy". While voicing this complicated and cumbersome rule, everyone can't help but participate in this fluctuation to avoid losses.

Or even if our willingness to participate is not high, we will be pushed forward by advertisements on major platforms. What is hateful is that our contact information is really "everyone knows", and the SMS notification of the e-commerce platform arrives as scheduled, and all the information around us is telling you that this is a good opportunity for buy buy.

Of course, it is a good promotion for what you should have bought, so everyone is aware of such a shopping "trap" and says that I just need to buy! ! But the result is "I can't do it, and the overwhelming reduction of orders makes it difficult for me to move forward on the road I just need."

Second, delay satisfaction.

Naturally, in front of this huge shopping festival, behind the push of the huge crowd, we obediently boarded the ship to contribute our own strength. As for overdraft flower beds, it is obviously not uncommon. Even before the festival, the boss will increase your quota and reward you with a worry-free list.

Many times we are pushed away by the information around us, buying unnecessary things, socializing unnecessarily, and taking unnecessary standard answers.

So in everyone's mind, is there a good or bad difference between immediate satisfaction and delayed satisfaction? Most people don't condemn a partner who spends hundreds of dollars on favorite things, but a person who overdraws tens of thousands of credit cards, white bars and flowers in the moonlight is definitely not supported. Regarding the candy effect (delayed gratification effect), psychologist Salle did such an experiment.

Third, the candy experiment.

He said to a group of four-year-old children, "There are two pieces of candy on the table. If you can hold on for 20 minutes, I'll give it to you when I come back from shopping. " . But if we can't wait that long, we can only get one, and we can get one now. It's hard for a 4-year-old to choose. The children want to get two sweets, but they don't want to stay up for 20 minutes. But if you want to eat it right away, you can only eat one piece. The final result: 2/3 children choose to wait 20 minutes to get 2 pieces of candy.

Of course, it is difficult for them to control their desires. Many children have to close their eyes to avoid being tempted by sugar, or hold their heads with their arms, not watching sugar, not singing, not dancing and not sleeping. 1/3 The child now chooses to eat a piece of candy. As soon as the experimenters left, they stuffed the candy into their mouths within 1 second.

After 12 years of follow-up, all the children who survived for 20 minutes had strong self-control, self-affirmation, self-confidence, strong problem-solving ability and were willing to accept challenges.

Children who choose to eat 1 candy are hesitant, suspicious, troublesome, willful, unable to resist setbacks and fragile in self-esteem. In the following decades of follow-up, it has also proved that those children who have the patience to wait are more likely to succeed in their careers.

Is it that choosing "pleasure" will lead to bad life, and choosing "patience" will lead to superiority? Of course not! ! Candy experiments can only prove that different people have different degrees of self-control, which is the pursuit of greater interests.

Fourth, romanticism.

The "trust" and "sacrifice" that I am willing to pay for greater interests are a kind of venture capital and a kind of romance that I don't want to give up.

It is precisely because of their predicament that these children can exercise their tough minds more easily. Once they have overcome the test, they will dream bigger dreams without fear, instead of bowing their heads to calculate the immediate gains and losses.

Therefore, it is not that children who are accustomed to "instant satisfaction" are worse, but that children who are willing to accept "delayed satisfaction" keep moving forward in the face of adversity and frustration. Does this mean that we need to be "hard on ourselves" to cultivate a tough character?

You don't have to, because the suffering in your life is enough for you and me to practice, but when you are faced with a choice again, you may see farther and have better scenery.