Communicate with teaching assistants

The first day

Communicate between two people

Chen Jing and Li Jianlin

Encourage support once you understand the basic situation (emotional link)

1. I have been very busy at work recently, how are you doing?

2. Share your own feelings

1. Affirm the students’ actions (approval)

2. Inform the family that marriage is a major event (enter life) (give real points support and gain trust)

3. Write a summary of the conversation (learn to review good habits and learn to be grateful)

Shen Xiaoting the next day

A current problem Design questions: If you feel unprepared and find specific reasons to provide support

Prepare students to tell the truth, which may be irritating. I know it even without telling you (psychological expectations build a sense of security)

1. The situation of the children 2. The situation with the husband

3. The situation of the work

The second instructor shared his feelings

1. Give the students specific information The purpose of the request (interaction with the group) is to see whether she is determined (emphasis on the direction of trust)

2. See what she has really done and give her strong support (motivation)

3 .Give the teaching assistant another chance to communicate, one hour earlier than other teaching assistants.

(Let the student feel that the instructor is responsible for him and cherishes him very much)

The third day

1. Hong Erbin

After listening to their communication, you feel What arrived? (Understand students’ expectations)

Recognition: 70% better than last year (give affirmation)

Student: Why did you choose me? Others are excellent, so what virtues and abilities do you have?

If you are prepared enough, you will have the opportunity to follow Teacher Da Li. You will get lost while walking, and I just want to pull you. Anyone who knows you will pull you. I saw your determination. I saw it in the meeting (cherish it) Approval)

Student: I feel that I have not done very well, but I have just started doing it from scratch

Once I understand the situation of the students

1. What have you done in the past six months? What's the plan?

The professional influence is that after reading Mr. Li’s book, I am worse than some top students. My previous study was not solid.

The influence on Dongfang Yueer’s teaching assistant work is that everyone can recognize me? How specifically? I haven’t thought too much about it yet

The park has a certain influence in the local area to spread the word so that more people know whether to join the community or not

2. During the two weeks of being a teaching assistant, you What did you do?

Create links, introduce students to themselves, guide students to discuss (refute difficulties, sign up and organize exercises). Half of the students are not active in cooperating with assistants because they are busy at work

3. There are ways to do education How determined? What is an ideal education?

Follow this path. Dongfang Yue'er decided to do family education before he came out. He wanted to learn education from Teacher Da Li and spread it across the country. Dongfang Yue'er could work with his tutor before he saw his tutor's life status improve. Don’t know what to do for half a year? Discuss with your husband why you want to do education? I want to help others. I am annoyed when I hear that making money. I hope I can be like a mentor in the future.

2. Share

Will I meet Teacher Da Li? Ask yourself

Now it’s my turn to speak and there are still 9 minutes left (let the students feel cherished). What I said will stimulate you to see how much you have adjusted, and how strong my strength and confidence will be to help you.

If you observe what your children want to do, they will say: But there are many. They have great desires and are ambitious. I want to do it, but I am hesitant? If you don’t change, you won’t be able to see Da Li. You need to be practical step by step. You want to cross the river without making a good boat. Do you imagine yourself crossing the river and have a biased understanding of the world in your own practice? What kind of psychology do you hear this? (Understand the students

How do I do it specifically?

I will not tell you, you can find that you have a heart to help others that others do not have.

Da Li’s education knows but can’t do it. He will blame himself. This is my bottleneck

I can’t tell you that it’s my decision. What kind of mentality do you have now? There is no way out. To solve this problem

Give yourself a day to sort out yourself in depth. After writing it, send it to me and I will tell you again

The two extremes of psychology are very good. I have to find reasons to live in the middle because I don’t want to do it

What I learned this morning: Find the villain in the dark. You are pushing me behind me and I can’t retreat

You are moved to become a mentor because of the people behind you

The more responsible you are to yourself, the more responsible I will be to you. Share your gains with the group

2. Lu Lili

Was it because you were busy? Or did you forget about it? You were preparing carefully.

1. What did you think after you made the phone call that day? I am very willing to have a mentality of procrastination and reluctance before, and I want to improve myself

2. Talk about personal growth of children and families, 10 minutes

Family

and Parents communicate that they feel that there is too much freedom in supervising their children, such as talking about their children at the dinner table. This way, the children will not become talented! There is a lot of communication with my mother, and I need to communicate more. My father has always been critical and studied education. How do I take care of my children? It will make you feel psychologically uncomfortable

It is difficult for your child to take a nap

Growing up? There was a period when I really didn’t want to take a graduate degree in college, but I still couldn’t understand that I didn’t have my own ideas in front of authority, and I had no boundaries with my husband and mother-in-law. I feel that this point has been adjusted after the quarrel. I am good at studying psychology and am good at taking exams. Now I am studying pedagogy? After seeing everyone’s feedback in the group, I feel that I have grown too slowly

3. Your own speech in the feedback meeting

By understanding the situation of students’ homework, it is necessary to lead Xiangba Academy to demonstrate first and then let go. Don’t feel rushed and feel more about the students. Less preaching. It is the same problem when treating children. Let students feel that it is not just earning credits but also Thanks to my own growth, I saw many others sharing. I grasped the rhythm and introduced myself again. It’s halfway through

4. Do you plan to join a teaching assistant in the next six months?

Take half a day off every week to do it at a fixed time at home. Allow yourself to make mistakes without getting entangled. It is better to put your daily work in the morning to improve your learning and share it with your parents

It is possible in terms of energy and time

5. What is the specific aspect of growth? 2 minutes

You can accept other people’s suggestions and look at the problem objectively. Follow Teacher Da Li and you will see that your mind cultivation sensitivity has improved. You need to improve professionally and communicate with others. You need to relax your tone and tone. Relax.

Feedback 20 minutes

I am chatting with you. We are so similar. In a few years, we will be like me. I was blessed before and lived for others. Now I live for myself. Your work will be adjusted. In the second half of your life, you will be like me. Realize, life is arranged

To bring you back, your work is more important than your children. You must follow the laws of nature. All you learn and do is to be a good mother. There is no good mother in the world. Mother is the most important thing. Student feedback on children

If you don’t adjust the child’s 10-year-old age, there will be problems and there will be no deep link with the child. If you don’t understand her, the child will be desperate

245 people choose you. He is so similar to me, just like when I was in front of Teacher Da Li, my nervous and stupid mind went blank. I have overcome the hurdle of my parents. I need to go through door after door and put 50% of my energy into it. The biggest competitiveness in this world is children. When you receive something, you will go all out and let go of the child. Once you put the child down again and again, you will grow up

Help for you How big it is depends on your actions. How confident you are, the more responsibility you take on yourself, the more I will devote myself to you

Your stage is to explore emotional boundaries at the age of 4 to 5. A person goes from 0- The repair is over at the age of 6

Today I went to buy a skirt. I often wear casual frosted sports. I have a girlish heart. When I am 50 years old, my child will be very happy. My mother is so beautiful. My husband will feel that my wife is very happy. Feminine

When you meet me, you feel that you are right and kind. Otherwise, your life in the future will be simple, rough and short. When you are about to reach a bottleneck, you will collapse and feel that many people do not understand you

You are doing very well, but you If you don’t agree, how tight should you tighten your own screws? Leave your children and husband aside. Life is all about thinking with your brain, but education requires using your heart. Next summer, it will be on the same frequency, and it will not affect our communication. You are pursuing the quality of your soul. We are on the same frequency, learn to relax in front of me and don’t be anxious. Our chat makes the mind more open and the mind contains many things

Set yourself up in two periods on the 6th. Send me what to do next and I will tell you. company flower

I put a lot of effort into cultivating teaching assistants to be completely relaxed, open and powerful with me

Thanks to myself for being kind and smart enough to meet the same people and learn to communicate and ask for help and show weakness

Fourth Day

Li Jianli

One? Understand the situation of the students

1. What was the situation of the meeting that day?

Didn’t you do something? But what is your position and what is your role? I was a little worried, but after listening to the meeting, I felt much more relaxed and interacted with the group attentively. Don't think too much.

One student is in the wrong place and another student is not in the group. I go to the group regularly to see the problems and interact. The two male students do not interact and communicate privately. The reason is that they are not confident in their hearts and are afraid of saying something wrong. Encourage refuting difficulties. Sign up this week to feel less tired and nourished

2. What is the plan for this half year?

Guide everyone to spend time on their majors and let students set learning goals

Let everyone see the warmth and care of Dongfang Yueer platform and not want to separate

Put your own Professional understanding helps oneself and others

3. Talk about the relationship with the children

The two babies are 6.3 years old and have a good family relationship. The husband is supportive and timely and cooperative. The second child was born Problems will be discussed, and plans will be made on weekends to spend a lot of time and energy with them. After work, after the children go to bed, I put my phone away on the subway when I get home, and spend 2-3 hours with the children. The second child is born, and the first child is born. Also sleeping together, the parent-child relationship comes first

4. The relationship with the husband

The sense of trust is very good. The parents in the original family complained and quarreled with each other, and did not want the pattern of their parents to appear. In fact, When I get along with my husband, I didn’t respect the boundaries before and I still control them now. I consider all aspects very carefully and point out that my husband is slow and doesn’t do well. My husband will be tolerant and supportive at work. My parents-in-law are also supportive. Isn’t it particularly big? Resistance

5. Relationship with parents

I don’t have the courage to solve problems with my parents. I was loved by my father when I was a child. My brother thinks that getting married is someone else’s business. If he has difficulties, he asks his parents to help. My parents Let me ask my brother. He disagrees with his parents for not coming. My brother is 8 years older than me. He studies well on his own and favors boys over girls. He doesn’t tell his parents about the difficulties and sorrows in life. When the second child is born, he will blame his parents and buy a house for more than 6 million. My brother refused to ask my parents to borrow money, so I finally gave him 300,000. The next year, my mother asked me to give it back to my brother. I felt very sad, so I tried to find a way to pay it back. My mother was sick and asked friends for help. I was not the first person to tell her about her illness. I want to go to the doctor and ask my parents. If they are not very close to me, will they reject me? I feel very sad and can’t do things now. Please don’t tell me.

My father lost his mother when he was born, and his grandmother married someone older than him for the second time. Grandpa

6. Evaluate yourself

Good: If you have requirements for yourself, you will work hard to achieve things. If you can help your friends, you will help them and invite them to buy fruits at home. Da Li’s course was put on TV to study together

Bad: To achieve the goal, I will ignore my husband’s feelings. I don’t understand my parents enough. It should be my own problem. I am willing to take care of other people’s feelings but I can’t do it myself. It hurts my parents when I say it

Feedback from Ertaozi

I will be nervous if you give me feedback. I will see the real you in the meeting and feel pressure to send you a message to discover a secret. I will tell you today. You are afraid in your heart that it will have a huge psychological impact on you (***)

Only when you see the problem can you have one-to-one communication and want to help you. If your own problem is not solved, learning and education is like duckweed without taking root. Seeing that you are working very hard for your family and especially blaming yourself for not being able to give them the love you have in your heart, I understand consciously that I can’t let go of my 35-year-old mentality. If this mental state continues, I will be excellent in other people’s psychology but not in my own psychology. I want to control everything at the age of 42. Problems will arise on the left and right, and if the problem is not solved, it will affect the children. One of the children is very sensitive, and your husband is an angel who goes around the edges and corners to help you (analysis and confirmation)

Ask yourself if you really want to help you, if you don’t I believe that if anyone does not believe in her husband or her children, it will take 5 to 6 years to adjust to the distrust and insecurity in your heart. Before the age of 6, everything you do is to build your own sense of security, and work hard to build a sense of security in the team. A sense of security, learn to gain a sense of security in education (key issues to wake up to)

Relationship with parents? 100 There are problems. Every time I try to do a good job, I cut it off again and again, and try to fix things. Do it well. The victim mentality is very strong. If you seek revenge, the relationship with your parents cannot be resolved and the relationship with your children cannot be resolved. Parents are the first relationship.

, like an apple with a heart problem, it will not be solved if it is not solved. I tell you that I am very scared in my heart

If the problem is not solved, it will consume a lot of energy and will not feel the happiness in life. Both children I'm afraid of you, you don't trust anyone, no one really cares about you. You are loved and warmed. If you don't accept yourself, you must accept yourself and feel sorry for yourself (the guidance that needs to be done)

Don't look outside. You are all looking to the outside. From the outside, if you don’t let go, you won’t be able to go into battle easily. You can do it first by overcoming the hurdle of your parents

What did I say to the students in the meeting that day, will you find out? Your speech is perfect, and the more perfect it is, the bigger your problems will be (increasing trust)

The company spends so much effort to help you, I leave my own campus with more than 200 people in charge, education heals itself ~ altruism is great Teacher Li made everyone shed tears after listening to the class through practice, don’t question me (learn to cherish)

How do you feel now? Tell the group to ask the next one to wait for 5 minutes (student feedback to understand the students' awareness and acceptance)

The relationship between my parents also needs to be adjusted

Take your time Come on, don't question me so I can take big steps

After I said it today, I realized that I don't trust you

Just relax and do it. If you make a mistake, I will take care of you. Don't be afraid. To express it truly, for example: Teacher Taozi, when you say you are not enjoying your work as a teaching assistant, you are also treating your own problems. I feel that you are more open-minded today and it won’t be so painful when you talk about your parents. I have been talking to you for so long today, I think you are like me in some ways. I hang up when others arrive so I can say thank you to Zhu Mei

Teacher at Zhu Mei University

Why don’t you change your WeChat avatar? (Homely Chat Emotional Link)

After the first three times, your condition was much better than before. How many days did it take to compile the meeting records?

I have been using the iFlytek input method mentioned by Teacher Qi Qian intermittently. I feel that you have used so much experience and everything you say needs to be recorded.

When I saw the minutes of the meeting, First, I was moved. Second, I was proud. I immediately sent it to the boss and said, "How long did it take to do it?"

You are the most pleasing to the eye among the eight teaching assistants. You don’t communicate like this with other teaching assistants. You just do it (you must be appreciated and given strength)

The fight for the teaching assistant job is what Teacher A Liang said. What is conveyed in the All Careers Dare to Sign Up group is caring and warmth. I realize that I am higher than the students and I am a service staff. Everyone needs to be accompanied, seen and encouraged, and I feel more comfortable getting along with the students.

The students call and cooperate with the assistant to give themselves time Treat the opportunity to understand with sincerity and think about it when you have time

Tao: Are you particularly good at speaking in front of me?

The first meeting was two times, and the plan was written in 16 pages?

There is an educational kingdom in your brain (deep linking is recognized again)

When I was a teacher at a university, I had a child who was anxious and worried about not being able to continue studying. She didn’t know what to do and took him with me. Later, she graduated and was doing well and helped a boy.

Two teaching assistants were troubled

1. I am worried about whether I can balance work and family well when I have a primary school and a baccalaureate school.

2. If I want to learn more, I will listen a little every day and I will feel comfortable. If I don’t listen, I will feel anxious.

Feedback from Ertaozi

I want you to express what you need to express without asking your reasons

Just take the responsibility if you choose. You cannot have your cake and eat it too. Just communicate and solve the problem. Your problem was solved for the first time. I feel that you are the only one among the eight teaching assistants who can implement the soul of Ba Academy education (real face)

The problem is procrastination, isn’t it? If you want to brew, your psychological strength is not enough. Your husband will give you strength. In the future, you will be a very good educational consultant. You don’t need to move, others will come to you (student moved). You are the only one who sends flowers. They are all criticized. You are better than others. Teaching assistants are two or three steps higher in the level of education

The body is working and the mind is thinking about things after they happen

What is your goal for half a year?

Only by doing things can you discover the problem and then you can know how to help

(Looking, hearing and asking)

Day 5

Zhao Jiling

Understand the basic situation

Self-introduction to family, children, husband and wife relationship

1. Work in human resources, have children, leave the company to study for 16 years, and work as Fan Deng Ten Thousand People Conference for 17 years and work as three I have been working for 10 months and have not planned to do things with my own advantages? Pay

2. The child is 3 years old

Only when I have a certain foundation in work can I have a child and not know how to raise it. Innate pattern of learning how to eat children. High energy. I heard the secrets of childhood. I wanted to be friends with my children but failed. It would have been much better if I communicated with them last time.

3. Family

My mother-in-law is a great lover. For those with master's and doctorate degrees, they will participate in taking care of the children. The whole family is relatively balanced and they are not picky about the mother-in-law. The family relationship is basically harmonious? I am emotionally capable and my husband is supportive. I studied in college and saw the principles of family management and started to use it as a family.

Taozi: You are in human resources and I am in education. The most important thing is practice. At the last meeting, we found that everyone is in need of help. Report to the company that this is a course and explain the specific details

Teaching Assistant: Child When brushing teeth, I will use picture books to guide the time and prepare the items. I will follow the child when he asks to go to different places on the roof. For more than ten days, I will let the child brush his teeth independently, and the child will not reason with him.

I don’t care about the child brushing his teeth, and then I can do it at night.

I communicate with my mother-in-law when I eat, and I won’t feed her until the point is reached.

If the child feels emotional and cries, he will wait for me or hold the child.

If you don’t follow the requirements at your parents’ home, you will be considered an ignorant child. When you go to your parents’ home, you will feel trembling in your heart

The child will say that I don’t know how to read.

Taozi: I saw it was completely open

Teaching Assistant: Husband and wife relationship

My husband graduated in 2008, and I was in the school club in my sophomore year. I follow the crowd and have low self-esteem. If my lover pays attention to me, I will take the initiative to pay attention. I don’t want to be paid attention to by boys. I like my husband and communicate with him. I lead him around. He listens to what I say and feels comfortable. He is very honest and has nothing to say. Talk about him without judgment. I love sports, studied human resources assessment, and tested his core competencies well. He graduated from college in two places, got married, studied for a Ph.D., has financial resources, and has children. Everyone participates together, and one party will not have to pay for the balance of trust. Give it to me. It is unconditional support, encouragement and tolerance that we have been together for 12 years, which has improved my personality. My husband put down his magnifying glasses before marriage and only looked at the advantages after marriage. My family of origin makes me anxious

Taozi: The relationship with my parents in the past six months Plan, half a year of understanding will give you a certain understanding of your trust and safety. You can’t directly say it to people who don’t know it. This will make others have different understandings

1. Put down some work to accompany your children. 60

I feel that I am 6.70 at work and 2.30 at children

My body is at work and my heart is with my children. Don’t use books to raise your children. Work as a human resource to understand personality characteristics

The child is too controlling and ignores feelings and does not really understand the child. A child over 2 years old cries every now and then. She wants your support and your strength. Crying is a powerful child. You hate it when your child cries. It is weak and constantly wakes up the child, making her a crybaby. Your dislike comes from your mother who thinks crying is bad and she doesn’t like to laugh. If he falls, we will smile and help the baby up. If you say it's okay, the baby will feel like he's being laughed at, and he won't be able to tell what's helping and what's hurting. Children don’t want to think that adults are laughing at them when they see them. Children don’t want to see old people smiling.

If you want to repair the relationship with your parents, there is no way around it. To repair it, you need to be respectful in front of your parents. This is the rebellious period of youth. This is my many years of experience. Education is a tool

Let’s sort out each point today and put it into order. Take your time and take different paths to reach different points to solve different problems.

Assistant teacher, is the desire for control in me a lack of sense of security? Tao: It is something you will spend your whole life grasping, and it is also a talent. If you use it well, it will be helpful

Your husband is better at raising children than you. People say that I learn Montessori to play with children. This is a state of mind. You can take a video of your husband playing with the child and compare it with the video of you playing with the child. The eyes of the child , otherwise if you keep going, you will be the last thing your children want to see when you reach the rebellious period of adolescence

If you don’t accept your husband, there will be disrespect and the children will absorb it. The mother is strong and the father is weak and the child When we are together, we need to feel the rhythm of our children and the unity of knowledge and action

I had control before, and it took me three years to repair it. I adjusted my schedule and meals with my husband, and made a plan to raise my children. Teacher Li said I have the qualities of a spiritual practitioner.

You also have it. What I’m talking to you about today is the deep-seated problems of life. In other places, 90 will be repaired. At Dongfang Yuerhui 100, in 10 years, you will accumulate. One day, you will suddenly realize that you have done a good job in education. You can do it anywhere

Share today’s communication in a group, sort out another copy and give it to me. It’s a pleasure chatting with you

I also know what the rest of my life will be like Every difficulty in the direction map needs to be experienced

I have followed Teacher Da Li for more than ten years. For this reason, I know everything

The instructor’s attitude is gentle and caring for other training teachers. No, it’s what I want

Happiness and joy (imagine what you will be like in the future)

The last chat is the longest one with benefits, this is between us fate