What should lovers do if they suddenly break up for no reason?

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Students' self-report

Wu Kun, 27 years old.

Xiaoxue is a wedding planner. She often wears high heels to watch the court outside. She specially went to the massage shop near the hospital to learn a few tricks and gave her a massage at night.

I can't bear to let her intervene, so I basically take care of the work at home. What she usually wants to buy is just a word, no matter how expensive or difficult, I will try to get it for her.

I thought that as long as I was kind to her, she would always be by my side.

That day, she suddenly told me on WeChat that she had cooked a new dish and would come and deliver it to me. I tasted it and gave her serious advice. She complained that it was too cold and gave me food, but she still didn't like it. I felt a little wronged, too, and I quarreled without holding back. Obviously, I just gave her advice based on what she said. Besides, I said it was cold and told her not to come. Without thinking about her, she quarreled with me and said that I didn't understand her at all and wanted to break up with me.

That day, she was taking a bath. I happened to see someone sending her a message on her mobile phone, which was a man's name. I was just about to open it and have a closer look. She came out of the bathroom and grabbed her cell phone. With a straight face, she asked me loudly why I went through her cell phone. She quarreled with me, broke up with me and ran out.

After I broke up with her, I was miserable every day. Later, my friend couldn't stand it anymore and recommended me to be happy. I read an article about love in music and found that a brother's experience was very similar to mine. I also added Yule Emotional WeChat with the idea of not letting go of any opportunity. Finally, she and I saw hope again.

Mentor analysis

We can easily find that in this relationship, students themselves have the following problems:

Question 1: Too good for girls.

In their emotional relationship, the long-term begging behavior of girls will only pull the distance between them farther and farther.

The emotional input of two people is unbalanced, so it is easy for the object to lose sight of the value of the students, and the students lose their attraction, and this relationship becomes boring.

Question 2: I don't understand female psychology.

The goal is to send food to the students for advice. In fact, the real purpose is just to get rewards from students. Students' straight thinking makes girls feel that students don't understand her at all.

Question 3: possessiveness

Students' excessive attention to the target, peeking at their mobile phones and other wrong behaviors are actually strong possessiveness caused by lack of security. Before fully understanding the real situation, blindly asking the object is a sign of distrust in the other party's view, and finally their relationship breaks down.

Question 4: Error recovery

After the target broke up, the students didn't give each other enough time and space. Instead, the harassment arrangement of WeChat and telephone bombing was adopted to stimulate the conflict and disgust of the target to the maximum extent, which eventually led to the rigid situation of WeChat hacking.

Save details

Keywords: frame construction, low emotional intelligence, possessiveness, error recovery

After the tutor comprehensively collected the students' information, Yu Leyan team held an emergency meeting to solve the students' main problems, and made a scientific and rigorous recovery plan for him through professional testing and analysis of all aspects of the students.

First, stabilize the mood and ease the deadlock.

We ask the students to stop all harassment related to the target immediately, and arrange a two-day break-up period for them, and forbid them to have any contact again.

Wechat was hacked due to excessive entanglement. Fortunately, the contact numbers of the two parties still exist, so we immediately instructed the students to edit a short message and send it to the target mobile phone.

In the process of communication, we learned that the most commonly used social software for objects is WeChat. Therefore, the tutor believes that WeChat is the best contact channel for the two at present, and adding the target back to the student's WeChat is the starting point for recovery.

After adding the target WeChat, we arranged a five-day disconnection period for the students. During these five days, students will no longer have any contact with the goal. On the one hand, it is to ease the mood of both sides, on the other hand, it is also to provide favorable time for the subsequent recovery actions.

Second, enhance value and create charm.

In order to help students recover this relationship as soon as possible, we have conducted professional tests and evaluations on students' image, emotional intelligence and psychology, and conducted a series of targeted courses training according to the final results.

The tutor learned that the target prefers sweets, so we decided to use it as a topic of interest after the class reunion. At the suggestion of the tutor, the students signed up for a dessert baking class online.

After testing his works, the tutor suggested that students share their daily dynamics in the circle of friends and selectively praise and comment on the target circle of friends.

On the one hand, this is to make students feel good changes through their daily enthusiasm and be unconsciously attracted by the charm of students; On the other hand, it is also to ensure the students' sense of existence in the target's mind, and there is no connection between them, so that the target has a sweet nostalgia for the past.

Third, continue to attract and close the relationship.

Through the progress of students' feedback, we know that after establishing a circle of friends for a period of time, the goal has occasionally praised the students' dynamics.

We learned from the students that a new friend's birthday in the baking class invited students to travel in groups, and the place happened to be Thailand, where the target had always wanted to go.

The instructor decided to take this as a breakthrough. On the one hand, it helps to create a topic of interest for the possibility of two people meeting again in the future; On the other hand, it can also let students better release pressure and ease their emotions.

On the third day of the student's trip to Thailand, the tutor suddenly received an emergency call from the student for help. The original travel dynamics shared by students once again won praise and comments from the target, and the target also took the initiative to have the first private contact with the students, which unexpectedly promoted the progress of our recovery.

After doing well in the first chat, the two began to chat and interact many times, and the relationship slowly began to ease.

We found that although the target showed shyness and unnatural emotions at first, there was no obvious disgust and resistance, and then he could boldly respond to unconventional classmates.

When the time is right, the tutor immediately guides the students to send out invitations. In the following days, the two had three offline dates. Students take their goals to the movies, watch the sunrise at the seaside, go to baking classes and make their own desserts.

The high-quality changes in the image of the students, the thoughtfulness and delicacy in details, and the bright humor in words all left a good impression on the goal. In the process of their communication, some harmless intimate behaviors naturally occurred.

Fourth, strike while the iron is hot to save your life.

We immediately discussed with the students and created a final recovery plan full of romance and love.

Students take the target to the cinema, and let the target enter the dim viewing hall first on the grounds of buying drinks. The movie started, but what appeared in the projector was not the movie plot, but the proposal video made by the students themselves.

The students brought their goals to the stage and confessed to their faces again. Finally, the students' sentence "You have planned countless weddings, and this time I will plan a unique wedding for you" moved the target to tears.

Suddenly, there was a burst of booing from the audience, and the target followed the lighted light, only to find that his friend had quietly come to the scene. With everyone's encouragement, the goal agreed to the student's proposal.

This recovery lasted for 29 days.

Tutor's conclusion

If you are also in the pain of breaking up, you don't want her to leave like this. Don't waste any more time and opportunities. Yule's emotion will help you deeply analyze your emotions and psychology, refuse to beg, and let her come back to you on her own initiative.