I want to get back together after breaking up with my boyfriend. How should I get back together after breaking up?

What should I do if I still can't help but contact my ex after breaking up?

Go, go boldly!

We should not only contact, but also try all these methods:

Be caring and attentive every morning at noon and evening. Each word is not less than 500 words. It's best to embellish your good memories together, reflect on your mistakes by the way, and promise each other that you will change.

Call him as soon as you think about him, send him a voice and tell him that only he can comfort you. Life without him is really too painful I want to commit suicide because of insomnia every day. It's better with photos.

You have to see him, and your heart will settle down. Therefore, at the door of the company at home, no matter where he goes, he will be blocked. The more stormy it is, the more sincere it can be. It is best to be unkempt, indicating that you have had a bad life after leaving him!

You are very weak alone, so you must need your comrades-in-arms, contact your friends, classmates and relatives to convince him, let the whole world know about your breakup, and everyone will put pressure on him.

Once he finds out that he has a new lover, he will start raping all social accounts 24 hours a day, leaving traces of visits, large fake blessings and small swearing, making unpredictable women the most attractive!

Believe you, this step is repeated twice at most, and your predecessor will definitely regret it!

You will be the woman he will never dare to mess with in his life!

"At the beginning, I was blind and with her. Now I look like a psycho. I can't get rid of it! "

So, friends, if you really want to stay away from each other and make them hate you and have no self-esteem, please contact him boldly to show your unwillingness and need. When the other person hates you extremely, you will wake up completely.

It's cruel, but it's the fastest way to wake you up. I've seen too many such people. No matter how I advised them not to bother their predecessors, they wouldn't listen. Instead, they vowed, "You don't know the situation. I must still be in his heart. His current attitude is to hope that I will get back together. "

As a result, these people's self-confidence was shattered and nothing changed. Not only will their predecessors not look back, but they will also be blacked out and will never contact again.

But I still can't stop everyone, knowing that there are tigers in the mountains, because many people are influenced by a magical psychological effect: Ze Gnacke's memory effect.

This effect is very interesting, it can make you forget the unfinished business. For example, when you are in love, what impresses you most is not the previous relationship, but the first love when you are ignorant: because this matter has no happy ending, you always feel that you should give him another explanation, as if there is always a piece missing in your heart.

The same is true of contacting seniors. You always think you shouldn't end up in a hurry. This idea has been tickling in your heart and making you uncomfortable all over. When you really go to your ex and make it clear, you will feel "Oh, it's over, our business is finally clear" and you will feel better.

So I always think that you can hold back your emotions after breaking up and not contact this person at all, which just shows that you can't forget him, because this matter has never really ended, and you are still fighting with your repressed emotions.

Many people can save their success, or really let go, just because they contacted their predecessors, and more than once.

Of course, as a consultant, I can't watch you blindly contact and jump into the fire pit. After all, I sincerely hope that everyone can save their own success, so I summed up a set of compromise methods, which are divided into the following steps:

On the matter of breaking up, men and women express themselves in completely different ways, just like in Raiders 3, Meng Yuntian broke up with his brothers in a nightclub, while Jia Lin was in Lacrimosa all day.

When a man and a woman are in love, the biggest difference is the degree of investment. Men are used to giving before enjoying, while women are used to enjoying before paying. So why do women always feel that men are not so good to her when they start to change their minds in the later stage, and then unconsciously start to control men? In fact, men have long been bored at this time. Although they don't say anything, their desire for freedom is increasing day by day.

So in the early days of breaking up, like wild horses, they put everything you once restrained on the agenda, all kinds of high spirits and indulgence, which is also a way of "demonstrating". I want you to know that after separating from you, I still have a good life, and men are sometimes so naive.

If you are eager to communicate with each other at this time and keep talking in your heart, hoping that he will come back as soon as possible, there will be no good result. At this time, he only cares about enjoying freedom.

Redemption itself is a process of making up for contradictions. The more modest you are, the more the other person will throw a "pot" on your head, which is not good for you at all.

Therefore, the first step of recovery is to calm down, give him some free space, and find the ice-breaking point from daily ordinary communication.

For example, a compliment to his friends, or a simple greeting on holidays, is enough to let them know that they feel your respect and will not want to escape because of pressure.

When the stamina of breaking up is not so strong (3-7 days, depending on the situation), the next step can be to try to increase the depth of communication by chatting, thus pushing the relationship closer.

How to speak? This is the hardest hit area for many tourists. Many people stumble on the topic selection, leaving the other party's only good feelings gone and missing the opportunity to recover.

There are three common mistakes:

How are you?

I really can't figure out where the logic of this problem lies. The other person answered well, which proves that the other person doesn't need you, and the other person answered badly. Are you happy? What he's thinking at the moment is that no matter how well I live, it's better than being with you, so this type of topic is not only meaningless, but also makes you quickly bury the hatchet.

B, is there really no chance between us?

This is equivalent to asking the other party to make a strong statement, but ignoring the stage when the other party is still testing you. This kind of pressure communication makes men very disgusted. Remember, the opportunity is in your own hands, and you can't ask the answer. You can feel whether the other person's heart is close to you and whether your relationship has eased.

Do you remember our past?

Although this trick is useful, it depends on the timing. If you keep forcing him to remember the past at the stage of breaking up, just like forcing him to jump into the abyss, he will always think of the conflicts and contradictions between you. What's the difference between this and digging your own grave?

Therefore, the easiest way to ease the relationship with each other is to do what you like. For example, "I especially like the movie/game/restaurant you just mentioned in your circle of friends." Is there a similar recommendation? "

If you really can't find a suitable topic, you can also start with some hot news, such as: "You used to like Tesla's car very much, but now your rights are so serious that you dare not buy it if you want to buy it."

As long as you find the right topic, you can create a comfortable atmosphere, reduce the negative impact of breaking up, and your "save the Long March" can go on smoothly!

Redemption is a process of reshaping his image, so you need to pay attention to the change of the other person's mood. If you choose to communicate forcibly when he is in a bad mood and refuses to chat, it will not only break up in discord, but even discredit your image.

In particular, he will associate these bad impressions with the bad memories of breaking up, which will make it more difficult for you to recover. Therefore, when chatting, the other person's tone is relatively cold: "Um/busy/no time". You should decisively end the conversation and say goodbye to the other person gracefully.

It is best to control each communication in 10-30 minutes, and at the same time, you can take the initiative to grasp the timing of the end, because no matter how interesting the topic is, it is inevitable that there will be silence when you keep talking.

Many people regard atonement as atonement, and when communicating with each other, they always unconsciously begin to apologize and admit their mistakes. This is absolutely impossible.

Think about it, what is redemption?

Instead of letting a person who looks down on you give you pity, this is for the sake of future life efforts, so your humble attitude will only make the other person look down on you even more and trample on your dignity unscrupulously. This atonement mentality will only lead to completely unequal relations.

Therefore, I suggest that when you save, if the other person's attitude is very bad, you can use diminishing thinking and exchange thinking to give the other person a reasonable comfort again.

Specifically, I don't explain, quarrel, argue about right and wrong, express my own problems+point out my mistakes+describe my dissatisfaction: "I know I am too headstrong, I understand your thoughts, but you should also be aware of your problems. If you can't blame all the mistakes on me, I won't be happy. There is no point in our stalemate now. Let's live our own lives. "

The purpose of saying this is to let him know that in this relationship, you two are always equal, and the contradiction is not caused by you alone. No one must be superior, and no one must be inferior. This can not only give the other person the affirmation he wants, but also give him pressure, alternating hot and cold, and turn his dissatisfaction with you into thinking about the relationship, so that he can realize his own problems, but if he continues to be with you, he can still feel comfortable.

When he starts to agree with you and can be led by your nose, do you still feel irreparable?

Finally, I want to tell you.

If you still have a persistent person in your heart, don't put up with it. You must go to him, in order to give this person a statement, give yourself an account.

This is a responsible attitude towards feelings.

But the premise is that you must produce convincing evidence, so that he can see your change and have the confidence to go on with you.

Otherwise, your so-called affection is to disturb him.

Psychological test: test the probability of getting back together after breaking up.

Have you ever thought about the possibility of getting back together after two people break up? This set of test questions helps you test the probability of getting back together after breaking up. Let's try it together.

Do you still have your ex's contact information in your mobile phone?

It's five points.

No, all 0 points have been deleted.

What is the reason why you broke up?

Due to objective reasons, the family disagreed with 1.

Long-distance love, no future 2 points.

TA thinks I have a bad temper and our personalities are incompatible. Three points

There is a third party involved in our relationship.

After our quarrel, no one would bow their heads and broke up in a rage.

I think TA has a bad temper, always complaining, and was dumped by TA for 6 points.

Of the following four statements, if you had to choose one statement that you agree with most, which one would you choose?

If a person loves another person, he should love all of TA, regardless of its advantages or disadvantages. Otherwise, it is not true love. He likes 2 points at most.

Although feelings are what you want, but it depends on people's efforts, the other person's love can also be controlled, as long as it can meet the other person's psychological needs, love can guide 4 points.

Twisted melons are not sweet. If TA doesn't want to get back together, I respect the idea of TA 1 minute.

The emotional world can never be equal, and those who want to get back together must not be stingy with their 6 points.

When you express one thing, you value it more.

The accuracy of verbal expression is 2 points.

Talking to the other person gives the other person a strong impression of 1.

Are the people around you comfortable with what you said? 6 points

The ultimate goal that words can achieve is 4 points.

What do you think are your basic emotional characteristics?

Emotional, often unable to control his temper 0 points.

Self-control ability is strong, the surface is calm, but the inner mood fluctuates greatly, and it is difficult to calm down 2 points in case of contusion.

Everything is a cloud, and it is not easy to get angry by nature. My friend praised me for my good temper by six points.

Feelings are not slow and direct, but once they are unstable, they are easily excited and angry. Three points

Did you save your ex?

I saved it, but it was rejected. I didn't save four points.

No, I don't know what the other person is thinking, so I dare not say 2 points.

I saved it several times, but the other party was very exclusive, Lahei, and I don't want to see my zero again.

I tried to talk, but the other party thought we were not suitable. Hope to find happiness 6 points.

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I'm Chen Yu, an emotional counselor, and I know more than you think. If you are emotionally confused, you can ask for a private letter or comment.