There are always incredible things in life - remembering two tablemates with long hair

There are always incredible things in life.

Even ordinary people.

The two girls I want to talk about in this article are my classmates in junior high school and high school, and both of them have been my roommates.

The story begins when I was eleven years old, when we were in junior high school in a small county in Gansu. It happened that we were all good at studies, and the three of us were ranked first, second, and third respectively.

You also know that I am number one.

But this situation actually only lasted two years. In the third year, it was the other way around, and I finished third, and they both became first and second. To make matters worse, after I entered high school, my grades went up and down. It's almost as if the trend of the market is unpredictable.

After graduation, the two of them were full of confidence and went to their favorite colleges and universities.

And I stayed in Gansu silently. The school I studied in, let’s call it South Bus Station Institute of Technology.

Before graduation, my mother, who always respects my personal choices, had a chat with me on the golden lawn next to the library of South Bus Station Institute of Technology and said, after you graduate, just go back to the county and take the civil service exam. .

I didn’t think about the past at all.

I want to go out and finish the things I didn’t finish in high school. I want to take the postgraduate entrance examination and change schools. This is not an easy task. But the strange thing is that when you make up your mind and never back down, many things will be solved. By now, I am close to thirty and have met countless graduates from prestigious schools. There are many such people around me. No matter what my situation was, I never showed timidity. Maybe this is because the youthful hormones soaked in the blood at that time have persisted to this day?

Let’s not talk about my side, let’s talk about the other two people.

In fact, after going to college, people become another kind of animal, like a sapling that has been restrained for a long time and is suddenly relaxed. Then, people only rely on their own desires. develop. Some are out of shape and some are normal. No matter what kind, it was finally a leisurely walk.

As for them, I knew very little about them. It was not until later, when I returned to Lanzhou in 2014 (I was born in 1988), that I had a rough understanding of human experience.

In fact, people from small counties like ours are really honest. Falling in love is a compulsory course for college students. For boys, to a large extent. For girls, almost 99% of the time. However, according to my judgment, there are slight differences between the two sexes. Boys, be more playful. To put it crudely, it’s just that I’m curious about women. Much more animalistic. Girls, most of them think much deeper and further. As we go along, we just think about our future life. As for the breakup rate, we won't talk about it, and I personally haven't done any detailed research. We are just chatting, so we just talk based on emotion.

The two of them experienced feelings one after another.

I don’t know much about the former, but I know the latter relatively well. The choices of the two are very different.

The former is much more rational. I know that her real flowering and fruiting took about two years. During this period, there was a long gap, which was about four years of college and three years of master's degree. Seven years actually flew by. After returning to Lanzhou, I met her twice. The first time, she was a girl who enjoyed getting her salary, buying an Ipad, drinking tea and watching American TV series. The second time we met, he had short hair and a thick neck. He was not from my black family. In fact, he was in confinement at that time. During pregnancy, girls basically eat and drink for the sake of their children, and they are completely out of shape. I am not a person who particularly likes to talk. At that time, there were three girls sitting together, two were married, one had a child, and the third was more pure and idealistic. She was studying for her second master's degree at Boston University in the United States. Her main purpose was Accompanying her boyfriend, who is studying for a PhD at a state university. As for her, when she opened her mouth at that time, she was from our family. When I heard this, my glasses almost fell off. Although I know that everyone has started family life.

However, as this was the first time I heard this statement, I still couldn't accept it.

I have never seen other people’s children. That day when I was lying on the bed, I counted and found that all the female classmates in my class had probably given birth to children. Everyone lives and works in peace and contentment in various places. Start a new life.

I know better about the latter. She was studying in Shanghai. In fact, she originally wanted to go to Shanghai. The thinking of boys and girls is very different, or in other words, the thinking of people is very different. I've been to Shanghai and I've been to Beijing, but I didn't like either one. There seems to be a deep-rooted decentralized thinking in my thinking. In other words, the more lively that place is, the more I stay away from it.

Girls are different, they like to pursue this kind of place.

One time a girl chatted with me about fashion. I stared at it for a long time, with big eyes and small eyes, and I really couldn't understand what was so worthwhile about that kind of thing.

Regarding her, it is similar. She may not be pursuing fashion, but it is meaningless. In her heart, there was poetry and distance.

She went to her junior year of college honestly, and experienced everything that a college student should experience. It was not until later that she started dating her boyfriend because of an opportunity. The other person seemed to be much older than her, probably around ten years old. She described that the living expenses at that time should have been several hundred yuan. In a place like Beijing, she spent thousands in one go and bought the best dress. And then I thought, is this a date? Just accepted her boyfriend. It is said that he looks quite handsome and looks exactly like Pu Cunxin. He runs a company and starts a business. In short, he is a passionate person. The details are unclear, but there is no doubt that she is quite happy. I even doubt that if she had her life to do over again, she would definitely do it again.

Later, the three of us took the postgraduate entrance examination one after another, and I was able to counterattack from my second book. The other two have not changed much. In fact, they just moved from the school of the original level to another school of similar level. However, the places of the three of them were switched. I went from the northwest to the northeast. The former went to East China from the southwest. The last one switched from East China to North China.

During the three years, everyone was busy with their own affairs. I don't know what the first person is doing. Having studied finance, she seems to be a very pragmatic person and very smart. Simply and smoothly, after completing my studies, I returned to Lanzhou and worked in a bank without much trouble.

Anyone who works in a stable company in a third-tier city can guess what happens next. Dating, getting married, buying a house, a car, having children. It’s just these things.

I took the funny route. First, instead of studying for a master's degree, I went to the library and Xinhua Bookstore crazily for three years. It was so busy that I didn't come out from 8:30 in the morning until closing at 7:30 in the evening. There's no big progress, it's just that I'm living an extremely happy life. Come to think of it, I was too lazy and unaware at that time. If I had known earlier, I should have decided to buy a laptop and start typing one article a day. Calculating this, my keyboard now has a few more polished keys. Unlike now, only half of it has been polished. If you don't study hard when you are studying, you will be blindly afraid when you graduate, thinking that you will have a career soon. I was very negative and ended up going to xlangxbo. Everyone is happy and congratulations to the students. My parents also think this is a good unit. It can be seen that the false name of capitalism kills people. Even domestic and foreign. After a year of wandering around, everything went wrong. So he returned to Lan. At any rate, my life was not meant to be cut off (actually, it was my family who encouraged me), and in 2014, my employer finally took me in. Until now. Now, many things have stabilized. I slowly got everything I needed. If there is any benefit to me from all this trouble, it is two points:

1. Shut up and work, and be willing to be a grandson. No matter how many people scold you, how many people look down on you. The attitude is absolutely good and must be corrected in time. I went out to hang out once and realized that my level was so far behind that I didn't even have the capital to survive in this society. No matter what the treatment in the unit is, no matter how many people say that the unit does this or that. I have accepted a dead truth. Other companies, state-owned enterprises, give you food to eat. You can't say such things behind your back, you have to be honest.

2. Start typing. After that tossing, I came to a strange conclusion. I have never persisted in doing anything for more than ten years. Except for self-study in college, I did it six days a week without stopping for three and a half years. So, I chose something that I can do myself and stick to every day, which is typing. And none of it is writing. I have never asked myself to write, but to have intention, artistic conception, literary talent, logic, and gain. I don't care, I'll just accept death, I'll just be stubborn. Just typing. One article a day, no matter how many. When I'm at my least, and usually when I'm most busy, I'm terribly tired, so I just write a title, such as "Essay 197-Today", and then write a period in the text. And I sent it from my mobile phone, because my laptop is too slow and the dormitory connection is not connected to the Internet. When you go to bed and use your cell phone, it counts as one article.

Now I insist on writing one article a day. Although the writing is extremely bad, but after adding the previous things, I finally have a number of 1870 articles. It's okay, just look at your achievements. It's so refreshing. I hope my wish to play for at least ten years will not come to nothing. I gave up once and I don’t want to give up a second time.

Oh, by the way, I forgot to mention that. My funny route means that I don’t want to go back to Lanzhou, I am in Lanzhou now. I don’t want to engage in scientific research, but I am engaged in scientific research now. You see, everything has a destiny, you can't escape it, this is fate.

As for her, she is the second classmate I mentioned earlier. Not going well. In other words, it was quite unsatisfactory.

As you expected, her boyfriend suddenly disappeared in her second year of graduate school. In fact, he disappeared from the world. Just can't find it. SMS, Fetion, WeChat, all CITIC cannot be contacted. After a long time, I gave up. The blow is huge, and there may be reasons for not adapting to the climate. Later, he returned to the small county town and lived there for a while. Female compatriots must have a deep understanding of it, and then there are all kinds of forced marriages and so on. She is amazing. After experiencing countless unreliable companies in Lanzhou, she found one that does geographic information and travels to Xi'an all year round. Work and take Ph.D. exams at the same time. According to her, while working during the day, her immediate boss looked up to her very highly, often invited her to dinner, and made great efforts to promote her. As for her, she went to McDonald's in the evening to review for the Ph.D. exam. Just when I stayed at home for half a year and started typing messily, she was admitted to the Academy of Sciences for a Ph.D. Study.

It’s interesting to say that during the study period, it still didn’t go well. Still trapped by love. The former male idol resurfaces. It turned out that he was losing money in business. Escaped to the United States. And she was also surprised to find that her boyfriend had many girlfriends, and she was just one of them. What's more interesting is that she belongs to a complex of this male god, the ex-girlfriend complex. Specifically, her image and temperament are similar to his ex-girlfriend. Oh, yes, this male god is not married. Older and unmarried. So, if you think about it, even if it goes well, it is unlikely to bear fruit.

I heard this story in a coffee shop. People around me think I have high IQ but low EQ. In fact, I know very well that low emotional intelligence is not a bad thing. High IQ is absolutely impossible. I studied science all the way here. I know what kind of people have high IQ. But definitely not me. I'm a little above average at best. 61 out of 100. But influenced by this storytelling. Later, I always had a vivid image of a female doctor in my mind. She was smart, loved pink, had a chubby face, was lively, carefree, but absolutely understood.

More importantly, she was willing to listen to anything I had to say. When talking, he is always typing on his ultra-thin Apple notebook, mainly to write a short thesis for his doctoral graduation. Always laughing, always annoying me. Don't want me to write about her. This person, if he existed, was derived from that story.

When she was studying for a Ph.D., someone harassed her. Probably still rushing to get married. Unexpectedly, a triangular story happened surprisingly. It was probably this buddy who stepped on two boats, and he was a girl she knew. Moreover, the incident reached her ears in a very bloody way. Hey...what do you mean by this?

When I saw her at that time, her face turned dark, which was a symptom of long-term insomnia.

She joked that I had three drinks a day, black tea in the morning, green tea in the afternoon, and coffee in the evening. Even so, I still can't concentrate very well. After struggling for two years, I finally graduated in the third year. I quickly went to work at a university. After going through so much, the car and house were all completed in a very short time. It’s not because I have money, it’s because I don’t want to be sloppy. This was in 2016. When she got married, her parents sent her a photo. I looked at it for a long time, but I couldn't figure out who it was. Still very happy for her though.

Because, I will never forget what my sister asked me shyly after getting dressed up when she got married, "xx, do I look good?"

Life is about It is not just about making money, nor about gratification, nor about high morale to realize revolutionary ideals.

There are so many things in life that are beyond our imagination. God arranges things beyond your imagination, but when you look back, you find that it was always reasonable.

Oh, there are always incredible things in life.

The three of us have been in the same class for six years in junior high school and high school, and we know each other very well. But when they were reviewing for the college entrance examination, both of them had their own aspirations for their future careers and cities. Seven years passed by between university and master's degree. During these seven years, we acted in different stories in different cities. Ultimately leading us to different careers and lives. After working, time passed very quickly, and three years passed in the blink of an eye. The two girls who had been my deskmates had become or were about to become mothers. The twists and turns of life are truly unimaginable. You always think that ten years is a long time, but when it is divided into three years, five years, and six years one after another, you simply can't even grab it with your hands.

I first came to Lanzhou in 2014. It was only after a month that I found out that my two former deskmates were there. One is doing a PhD at the Chinese Academy of Sciences, which is just across the wall from me, and at the same time he is struggling to get over the setbacks. The other one works as a PM in a bank near Lanzhou University. The distance between us in a straight line is only within one thousand meters.

In 2014, I was only 26 years old. Time flies so fast.