What should I do after being blacked out by my best friend (my best friend blacked me out)

Black screen is one of the most important functions of every social software, which can protect users from harassment by others, including those who used to be close friends but are now strangers. According to incomplete statistics, on average, everyone will have at least six "old friends" who have not been in touch for a long time.

But compared with people who don't contact, it is even more regrettable that old friends have made bad friends, which may be just a sentence that violates the fragile bottom line. So they deleted each other on WeChat, Weibo took two-way access, and the mobile phone number was blacked out. After that, no one wants to pull a long face to repair the relationship. I get used to it after a long time, but not because of face, but because I really have no motivation to repair it.

But is this the end of a relationship?

No, it seems to be over. Because the decision to do so is usually not really well thought out, I feel a little sorry inside. Once the other person says something or does something that is more in line with your expectations, you will be shaken-in fact, people are not bad, why did I pull the black in the first place?

Some people are eager to end a relationship and do things like extortion and customs clearance. But some people don't care, thinking that hacking is a meaningless action. Lahei actually showed his weakness: lack of tolerance for the gradual alienation of the relationship and lack of confidence that he would be hacked first by the other party, so he would start first. It is said that the latter situation often happens when couples break up.

But whether it is a couple or a good friend, the premise of the normal end of a relationship is to face the reality. If you don't face the reality, there will be no good ending.

The real ending must be that both sides have explored all the possibilities and come to the conclusion that this relationship can't continue. Only when you find that at this moment, under the current realistic conditions, it is meaningless to maintain the relationship, and then make a decision, you will not waver and doubt today's decision.

In the real relationship, no one will consider the problem completely from the interests of another person, even the best friend, even the senior girlfriend. Because everyone's interests are different, ending the relationship is also an important means to balance the interests of two people. But the good ending is not that the other party can't find himself after the power failure, but that one party thinks that continuing this relationship will harm the interests of one or both parties.

There is a fine line between ending and giving up. We often hear the words "I want to end this relationship for Ta's sake". But if you need such words to comfort yourself after ending a relationship and convince yourself that the ending is correct, it just shows that the ending is incomplete, sincere and imperfect.

A good ending is not disagreement or two-way shady, but an opportunity for both sides to discuss their true feelings in depth, even if they quarrel, it is better than private shady. Sometimes we exaggerate some small things infinitely, leading to differences and covering up the actual efforts of both sides in a relationship. With enough communication space, the negative impact of the end of this relationship will be less.

A good ending is sometimes a good result for a relationship, which can make people grow significantly and deepen our understanding of ourselves. More importantly, when you look back on the decisions you made at the end of the day, you won't feel any pain or sadness. At most, you can't feel the conditions at that time, leaving you no choice, that's all.

Ending is not to forget completely, but to reduce the position of the other party from important to extremely unimportant. Those people sink into the depths of consciousness and memory, they still exist, but your attention is less and less distributed there. The feeling of ending is that although I still want to think of them, I have no impulse to contact.

The biggest growth of people is to realize that ending a relationship is actually the same as establishing a relationship. Although it still needs to be handled by one person, it may be just a simple extortion, but it still needs the result of mutual understanding.

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