Should I help my mother-in-law pay back the money after marriage?

My husband sat down, and from the moment he lit the cigarette in his hand, I knew everything would become restless.

Things have to start with a phone call my husband received.

"Yes, I am. What can I do for you?"

"Oh, how much is it? When did you borrow it? "

"I'll ask about the specific situation and contact you later."

My husband turned and said that he would go out for a while. I was about to ask, "pa", the door closed and he left in a hurry. I felt something was wrong at that time. When it comes to money, we always discuss it, but this time, it is different. ......

My husband and I live in the fourth and fifth tier cities in the south. He is an ordinary employee of a local state-owned enterprise. Engaged in administrative work in private enterprises every month, plus the bonus at the end of each month, the total income of two people is about 654.38+ 10,000.

I am afraid of your jokes. My husband and I got married at the expense of a child and raised a beautiful, lovely and kind little princess. Although we didn't know each other enough when we got married, we can still help each other in life and struggle together economically. A few years later, at the end of 2020, we happily paid a down payment of 350,000 yuan. At that time, the happiness of "finally having your own world" could not be realized.

In my mind, my husband has always been a potential stock, with clear thinking, independent thinking and self-motivated. After work, he also found various part-time jobs, and even a friend opened a company and asked him to help move chemical raw materials. He did not hesitate to do manual labor for 300 days. As long as there are channels to make money, he tries his best to fight for it. As for me, I have nothing special. I just need to take good care of the baby, have a good class, and be thrifty.

However, full of expectations, but can not get the desired results, a bolt from the blue, instantly shattered our dream of getting rich.

Late at night, my husband came back, obviously exhausted. When he saw me, he said nothing. He went to his room to watch his daughter sleep. When he returned to the living room, he sat down and lit a cigarette. I sat with him. He looked at me blankly and painfully, and tears as big as beans swirled in his tired eyes.

"Tingting, whatever I say to you below, no matter how you listen and finish, you should be mentally prepared."

I nodded and was on pins and needles. At this time, I am eager to know what to send and I am afraid of what will happen in the future. What I am afraid of is not money, but the influence of money on my family, feelings and future life. Unknown fears make me restless.

"I owe 30,000 to 50,000, push Pai Jiu, and talk to his former business friends."

"Dad how to gamble again, didn't such a thing happen before, why again! ? I owe so much money, where can I get it? " I couldn't control my emotions for a moment, and it broke out in an instant.

"This bad habit, he has been continuing, has not changed. The creditor didn't call me today, and I was kept in the dark. "

"That you want him to deal with. I don't care. That was the last time. I don't care if there are 10 thousand reasons this time. "

My husband was silent. I know that since he told me about it, he must have tried his best to chip in and return the money to his father-in-law. But the situation now is that we have no extra money, and we are still fighting for the future, but it is unfair to add this unwarranted burden. At this point, I know that everything is to find a solution to the problem of money. But I don't want to take the initiative. I want to wait for my husband to discuss with me and see what to do. Help is help and should be helped. But it is the best solution to consider how to help within your power.

My husband's silence made me completely unaware that this was just the beginning of the outbreak.

Because of this silence, we have been in a state of cold war, and there is no communication except daily necessary communication.

Three days later, I received some loan advertisements one after another. Suddenly, this information made me realize a very serious problem. Did my husband borrow money online? The emergency contact filled it in for me. These unscrupulous loan companies sell the information of these customers, which leads me to receive these messages.

For a moment, I felt confused and uneasy, from having business and quantity to making decisions without authorization, perhaps for a moment. I'm not sure, I can't believe it, and I don't want to ask him, so I did what I wanted and didn't want to do, and turned on his cell phone.

However, what I turned on was not the mobile phone, but the most unwanted result.

Ant borrows 80,000 yuan, micro-loan 50,000 yuan, JD Finance 30,000 yuan, pat loan 20,000 yuan, * * *180,000 yuan. The sudden outburst of emotions made me completely unable to control myself. I made a scene in front of him and asked him why he didn't discuss it with me when he borrowed money. Why do you need to borrow such high-interest money when you have only such conditions? When borrowing money, I thought about how we would pay back the money in the future, and countless reasons echoed in my mouth.

The interpretation of his sentence is, "He is my father. I will help him no matter how difficult it is, and I will help him up no matter how difficult it is. "

It's really hard. It's not money, it's not pressure, it's money, from business and quantity to making decisions without authorization, to not communicating with each other and not understanding each other. Is it because of this that we can do such a thing regardless of everything? Isn't our small family important? Aren't we going to consider it? Doesn't my feelings matter?

Until now, the problem is still a problem. The problem of money should be basically solved, but how can we go back to the past?